Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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Hey do you think its odd to be 13 and still sleeps with your parents? it is really embarrasing and my grandparents make fun of me and even my own dad but my mom dont. I didnt have my own room until i was 4 and so I always slept eith my parents. Also my siblings and things would scre me about ghosts and stuff and a lot of times I see things like wierd stuff in the middle of the night and I think about ghosts. Also another thing i worry about is that someone will break in and I want to be with my mom. When I have friends spend the night with me I sleep in my own room with them and things (which most of the time we don't sleep) but anyway. Do you think it's wierd or abnormal please help!! Thanks! (link)
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It is abnormal to be sleeping with your parents at this age. It means that there are some emotions inside you that you need to deal with.
For some reason, you feel unsafe and insecure at night. You need your parents presence to feel protected.
Perhaps you would consider going to a therapist to discuss this, and see what is really bothering you that you can't sleep alone.
I think you should try to gradually break away and begin to be more independent by sleeping in your own room. After all, you are a teenager! You want to do your own thing with your friends and you will be going through a lot of changes these next few years. The privacy and alone time of sleeping in your own room is really needed. I'm sure your parents would also like some privacy!
First, try sleeping on the floor by your parents bed. You're still close to your parents but at least in your own 'bed'. Do this for a few nights.
Then, try sleeping right outside their room by the door. You can leave the door open if you want. Keep this up until you feel comfortable.
Now, try to sleep in your own bed at least one night a week. Get a night light and maybe a noisemaker that plays soothing sounds (like the ocean or rainfall) that will keep you feeling safe. I sleep with a fan on because it blocks out background noise, because I am superstitious like you and it creeps me out to hear any noises late at night.
I also sleep with a pillow over my head to further 'block' anything out. You could get one of those eye masks and ear plugs/the noisemaker to block out any odd sounds that might scare you. You can sleep with the door open or closed, and just remember, your parents are only footsteps away! You are safe.
I hope you can try these things and start to feel more independent. My brother slept with my parents for a long time, but now he loves having his own private room to be in. You will too!
Good luck,
-Abby
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