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Almost 15/F Guy is 20/M...
I've been talking to a guy online and he's from a different country. I like meeting new people, but at first he came off really strong.
He would call me, and text me, and comment on my pictures on facebook, which really was uncomfortable.
I texted him back and told him that he was being stalker-ish, at that time, he backed off and we became sorta "civil".
I have trust issues with guys, A LOT of trust issues, and I can't find myself to trust this guy much, but I am still talking to him.
He acts like he's met be before, and it's not freaky, I'm only curious. He asked me if he could call me sweetie, and I didn't really care, so I told him sure. Sometimes he asks me if I missed him when we don't talk and we'll have in depth conversations, which is nice because my guy best friend doesn't know half the stuff about me that this guy is guessing about.
It is nice to have someone to talk to that really gets me.
Anyways, how should I tell him to "back off" nicely? I don't want him to say sorry, I just want him to know that.....I don't know how to explain it. Maybe that: I don't understand why he is getting so close to me and saying things to me like that. (link)
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Don't ask this guy to back off. YOU back off. You allowed him too much access to you in the first place, and now you realize you've found yourself a stalker. The good news is that its just as easy to distance yourself from him. Just cut him off. Don't answer texts (PLEASE, please please don't EVER EVER give a stranger your actual phone number, especially over the internet), don't email him. Delete his emails right away. Don't even read them. De-friend him from FB. Do it now before this thing becomes something you really can't handle. This guy has all the classic signs of an online predator, a pedophile. Don't believe me? Google what some of the traits of an online predator are and ask yourself if they fit him. Cut this guy off now and take it as a lesson learned. Talk to people you know, or else keep your "online" friends for FB only. You could get yourself inot real trouble.
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