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20/F

I met this guy, Sean, at a party around October of last year. We have a lot of mutual friends and one day, ended up sitting by each other at a basketball game. It was a lot of fun and we talked and danced the whole time. All of our friends kept saying we looked cute together and that we should date. Of course, I hardly knew the kid so I just rolled my eyes. We didn't talk much again, only when we saw each other at basketball games we would say hello.

Randomly this semester, I ran into him at another party. He was really drunk and I had been drinking as well, so we talked and I flirted with him--a lot. The next weekend, I saw him again and we figured out we had a class together so we decided to sit next to each other. At this point, I hardly talked to Sean, but at this party, he left with another girl, and I, having had some drinks in me, was devastated. However, everything was fine and I ended up sitting with him in class and it was honestly the most fun I ever had in a class whilst paying attention, lol.

Flash forward to now. We talk everyday. Literally, every day. He texted me almost everyday I was gone on spring break. He IMs me as soon as I'm online. Once in a while he'll drunk dial me just to talk. As far as I know, he has not hooked up with any other girls since that one day I mentioned above. EVERYONE asks me about "us", including some of his best friends. I feel weird when we don't talk. Basically, I'm falling for him...hard.

Here's where I'm confused: last night we were IMing each other on facebook, and randomly he told me he was upset so I asked him to tell me about it. And from what I gathered, he was just thinking about his ex-girlfriend that broke up with him months ago, and it really bothered me. He told me he was over her but he's mad because she's not making an effort to be friends with him and purposely ignores him...already I can tell that he's so hung up on her. He also told me he thinks if they tried to communicate more through the long distance (skype calls, visits, etc), that he would still be dating her.

Now I'm all confused because I was SURE he liked me and then he drops this bomb...I've not told him I liked him yet but I'm not the type of girl with the confidence to do that. PLUS, I'm not ready for rejection right now...Any ideas? I'm just lost...we never talk about boys or girls in front of each other, we always made it point to not talk about cute guys or girls or exes to each other....it's just weird.

I totally agree with the first answer here, he DOES like you.
From everything you've said, he definitely likes you but I think you need to make that clear to him otherwise he will only see you as a good friend.
Hopefully there's a party soon for you both and you can properly tell him and maybe make the first move.
But between then and now, continue to have a good time with him in class - there's no harm in that! - and when he brings up his ex-girlfriend, you could tell him that she's not worth the time, everything happens for a reason and that he deserves better - someone like you!
good luck :)

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(Rating: 5) thanks! i guess this is what i've been telling myself but i'm just so afraid of rejection...thank you sooo much for your help!
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