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Hello,
I very rarely contribute to this site, although find it to be very beneficial and I'm glad it's around. I've had some questions answered through other posters, so I often lurk, I just very rarely contribute.
That being said, I'm seeking some advice.. I'm good friends this this girl from a town nearby. She attends public school, while I'm homeschooled. This limits us from seeing one another very often, although we talk very often online and fairly often on the telephone. Currently, we're not seeing each other in person, but every few months. This will change if this relationship ever develops into something more.
The girl is currently dating a guy and their relationship appears to be fairly decent. I've gotten some vibes from her that seem to imply she has an interest in me. She tells me she loves me (which is something I am hesitant in saying in return, as the young age of 15, I feel love is a hard thing to understand) and she's also sent me some photos of herself that her boyfriend would probably not appreciate. Now why that generally would indicate she's a wee bit on the skanky side, that's not the case, she's just a girl that trusts me, as we've been real close friends for a long time.
That said, I really want to see our relationship move on, but is it worth it? I suppose my real question is, what to do? Part of me wants to pursue this further, since she's implied she likes me, but another part of me makes me hesitant, as if she is in a relationship now and liking another guy, I could very well end up being cheated one if I were to pursue this.
I'm a real selective guy (I know that sounds contradictory, a hormonal teenager being selective), but I have standards and she is really a wonderful girl. I just think she's maybe a little confused, I certainly don't want to think that she is interested in me and wants to have me around on the side, along with her boyfriend.
Thanks in Advance,
Chase, 15/M (link)
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It's not cheating if she breaks up with him and dates you.
Are there risks? Yeah. Could she say she break up with him and keep you secret from each other while continuing to see both of you? Yeah. Could you get your heart broken? Yeah.
Everyone's hearts get broken. At 15, the chances that you will stay together till death do you part is really pretty small regardless. There's a pretty good chance that one of your hearts will get broken if you date even if the cause of the breaking has nothing at all to do with everything you fear right now.
I'd say be direct. "I like you too, but I have no intentions of sharing you with anyone or being 'the other guy'" or something of that flavor.
If you don't fall down you never learn to get back up. You're 15, no offense or anything, but you really don't have that much to lose.
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Thanks for your perspective. I welcome the opinions of others to help me get view the situation from a different light. Appreciate your time.
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