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Hi guys i am 15 years old, and i am talking to a guy who is 19. you have probably read questins about this before because i ask alot about this situation, but I told my mom about him today. She was cool (i think) about him having a child. probably because she had my olde brother at the age of 16 so she could relate. Now the problem is the age difference... my mother and i have been on very thin ice with me and my 'behaviors'. so she thinks i am going to be going down to crack and alcohol lane when im older.which i am not! i am not that idiotic. i know my limits and things. But how can I explain to her than i am not going to became an addict to anything, and how do i explain to her that 19 and 15 is not that bad. if my question maks any sense please answer it! (link)
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Responding to feedback.
You know what worries me? This line.
"i am hoping that if him and i are to date or anything i'll be able to pus him back on his feet which i know i am 15 and i shouldnt have to worry about that but it's just who i am...i have helped a numerous amount of people get on their feet when they fall"
I get this. Why do you think I'm on this website? I like fixing people.
I use this website. I fix my friends (much to their dismay) and I used to try my family. Don't do it in dating.
Your entire relationship is predicated on the idea that you can fix him. If he never gets fixed, you'll both be miserable. If you don't know what you're doing (you don't, you're 15) you'll probably end up enabling him rather than helping and make it worse.
You aren't going to listen to me. I realize that. Remember what I'm saying when this has gone south in a few years. Ask another question requesting female feedback on dating men they need to fix and how good of an idea it is. Remember what they say too. Dating people you intend to fix never turns out well. You might even fix them, but if you do the process will be so mutually painful that you'll kill the relationship in the process.
Really, that'll happen either way, but it'll hurt more when you see them whole and happy with someone else and think of the time you wasted.
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i understand your point. it's just a difficult situation. I know and am very alert to the 'problems' but i am hoping that if him and i are to date or anything i'll be able to pus him back on his feet which i know i am 15 and i shouldnt have to worry about that but it's just who i am...i have helped a numerous amount of people get on their feet when they fall. Him and i were together last night at the beach and i just felt so extremely happy and i know he did to..
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