Member Since: February 19, 2011
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Last Update: April 18, 2011
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hi there...
22/f
i am stuck in a really crappy situation...
i had a bad bad experience last year. first there was a guy who totally used me (i should have seen that one coming but as it "could never happen to me" given that it was my first relationship" i didn't know how to say no cause i wasn't sure of anything... anywayyy...) school pressure, prof truing to make a move on me, parents pressuring me, money...etc. i ended up seeking an escape by getting involved with a bunch of people who are not exactly innocent...
i mean every one has fun, but these guys are on things every weekend if not drunk or partying or hooking up or getting people to hook up after fucking them up... they're an average of 3 years older than me, and much much much more experienced than i am...
i thought after that first fling with a guy that else could be out there that's wilder than that? and that is what i want to do since i am no longer naive so that sorta got me initiated into their group...because i had "potential to get corrupted" i don't judge people which is why i have so many friends with different views and lifestyles... i am okay with what they do but i can't handle these new friends without my life crumbling down...
but i can't seem to say no (as usual) and i keep getting sucked into it!!! how do i get my life back!!! how do i sever them out of it if need be without repercussions... i am not comfortable doing what they do at all... and i've got to get my act together cause i am beginning to flunk school!!!! HELP
oh and one of the girls in particular is super manipulative and she is almost psychopathic and is dressing like me talking like me always trying to find commonalities between us... sometimes i feel i am turning into her puppet. or doll she is very very dominant and i can never say no without indirectly getting the sense that i am threatened and that i will regret it...
i got sucked into it deep to the point where plans are already made for me, and if one thing isn't in common i am expendable and that i will be ruined....
what do i do??? i can't let my family or friends find out since i am pretending to have my act together!! (link)
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I think you should stop being with these people. First of all, you seem to have a pretty good character, and it's not worth destroying it or regretting about something that may happen later. Being with them may have serious consequences. I understand you because I m never able to say no, and my first boyfriend completely used me. I believe you should let these people sort of "forget" you, because it seems like they may hurt you if you say to them "Nahh, i don't want you anymore" or something. After having got rid of them in this careful and quiet way, you should get your life in your own hands. It will really help you, you will have confidence and you'll be able to say no. Furthermore, you won't be afraid that you will probably end up doing sick and bad things because of those people. I hope I've helped you a bit :)
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om god exactly!! i am just so scared cause that girl i was talking about is obsessed with me :s it is really really really freaking me out!!! and she knows too much!
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