Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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My boyfriend and I were supposed to hang out tonight, but he decided to go out with his friends instead. This is not the first time that hes decided his friends are more important than I am, nor will it be the last.
I called him after he told me we wouldn't be hanging out, and told him that I felt like i wasn't as important as his friends. He proceeded to tell me that he didn't want to deal with it right now and that he would talk to me later and hung up.
What did i do wrong?? There have been times where hes told me hes coming to pick me up and then decided he was to tired and i've walked the hour home from work at midnight. I just am so upset right now i feel like i put all the effort in the relationship and as soon as i get my hopes up about something, he changes plans and i'm just not in the picture anymore.
I'm afraid to approach him because i don't want him to blow up and just call our relationship off. But i'm afraid to leave it alone because i know its bad for me to be stewing about it and not letting it out.
What should i do?
Im 20 hes 28. We've been together for a year and a half. (link)
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When I first read your message, I thought your boyfriend was a teenager because thats what teen guys tend to do. Then I read that he's 28! Your boyfriend sounds pretty immature.
You are completely right in being upset. It isn't fair of him to make plans with you and then change them just to hang out with his friends. He needs to make time for both of you, but that doesn't mean ditching either when it's convienant for him.
Him letting you walk home alone at midnight? Thats unacceptable. That blantantly says he's lazy and doesn't care about your safety. I would have ended it right there.
I know you don't want to cause drama, but you need to fight for what you deserve. If he isn't giving you what you need, then he isn't the right guy for you. Pick a quiet time to talk to him about this and try not to be accusatory or make him be defensive. Just express how he makes you feel and ask him if he wants to change to fix it.
Don't let this go, you will only end up resenting him so much.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Thank you for your advice. I really appreciate it.
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