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I'm an 18 year old female with nothing on my sexual resume. I've never been kissed and the furthest I've gone with a guy is an awkward pat on the back. I am too the point where sex is just about all I can think about. I wanted to wait, and save myself for the right moment. Now all I want (or it really feels like need) is someone to just hold me, touch me, anything. Masturbation can only get you so far. I'm not this girl, I wanted to fall in love and have it mean something, but now I can't wait, I don't want to wait and its literally driving me up the walls. What am I supposed to do with myself, do I just go find the nearest guy and jump into bed with him? I don't want to feel like this anymore. Please. (link)
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Adult to young adult, a one night stand isn't necessarily going to be as satisfying as you think.
Here's the thing. You're 18. You go out and have sex with a guy. It sucks. You're unsatisfied, and now have no desire to do it again with him. Do you do it again, finding a different guy? And again? Hoping to find one of the guys your age (probably an average of a 4/10 chance) who's decent in the sack and a considerate lover?
Straight up, part of a relationship is feeling out another person's personality. A guy who's considerate and thoughtful in every day life will be the same in bed with you. A guy who's not will be the same in bed with you. How do you find out?
Date em'
It's not about the right moment. Don't think about it that way. It's about finding a guy who's not a jerk who you will wake up next to wanting to sleep with again. It's about finding someone you can have sex with regularly within the confines of a relationship and figure out exactly what you like and how to enjoy it. And maybe teach each other a few things along the way.
Be patient. You don't have to date a guy for six months, but you want to find someone you like enough to date for a while. If you're not going to marry him, whatever. You're 18, I wouldn't expect someone expressing your degree of sex drive to marry the first guy she sleeps with. But at least find someone you like, who likes you, so that there can be more to the sex than just momentary lust when you want there to be.
Trust me, the sex will be all the better for it.
Also, first times are awkward. Always. A one-off is just going to make that worse, especially if you pick some drunk dude at a party who couldn't perform well and wouldn't give a shit sober.
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Thank you. I really do appreciate your honest answer, and I'm starting to understand a little more. So hopefully you won't see me again on here crying about my lack off getting some. Once again, thank you.
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