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I am a married women and i have two boys of ages 3 and 6 years old. since being with my husband we have loads of ups and downs and we are still together. I am a good listener and i am none- judgemental no matter what i am told i keep to myself and i am honset in my answers i give to questions i have been asked and also with my life i am also honset as well.

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To begin with, I love my boyfriend...we always have a great time together and he is my best friend. He's the only guy I've ever done stuff more then kissing with and I've lost my virginity to him (and he lost his to me). This morning I woke up really happy because we had a date last night and it was really fun. But then I checked my facebook, and everyone else updated their status about them hanging out with friends and my best friend sent me a text and said she missed hanging out with me...I'm so confused, because I LOVE hanging out with my boyfriend, I'd rather hang out with him then anyone else, but at the same time I miss hanging out with my friends. I feel like my friends are just like "oh, she's always with her boyfriend now, she probably won't want to hang out with us anyway" and they never invite me to stuff like they used to :( I guess I have been more distant since I've been with this guy, and I miss my friends but I'd still choose to hang out with my boyfriend over hanging out with them...I don't know why but I've been craving the 'single life' lately, even though I'd never break up with my boyfriend, at least not right now. And I don't believe in 'taking a break'...if I ever broke up with him (or him with me), I couldn't ever allow us to get back together because if we can't work out the first time, then we probably can't work out the second time. So what do I do? I feel like I'm torn between my friends and my boyfriend, but I'm not...I'd rather hang out with my boyfriend. Maybe I just like the idea of being more social rather then actually doing it? A lot of times when I used to hang out with a friend, I'd get really bored and just want them to leave so I could be alone...I just don't know what's up with me! I'm so confused :( please help, any advice is appreciated!

Also, if it helps, I'm 17 and he's 18...we've been together for a little bit over a year.

you don't need to feel torn or like you have to break up with him you just need to come up with some way of dividing your time so you give some time with your friends and some to your boyfriend they can be equal it is going to be hard as it sounds to me like he his your first love if i am wrong i am sorry but that is what i did i spent time in the week with my boyfriend/ husband now and then when i wasn't seeing him i spent time with my friends then i even made time to having a me night pampering myself with a nice bath with candle's to make me relax from the stress's of the day
i hope it helps

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(Rating: 5) No, you're right, he is my first love :) thanks for the advice!
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