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19/f. Turning 20 in about 2 weeks. I think there's certain decisions I have to make for myself but respect the opinion of those I love. Let me tell u a little bit about my situation. I was adopted at birth and I found out when I was 18. My parents got divorced when I was less than 2 years old bc my dad was cheating on my mom. The lady got pregnant an had a son. A couple of years later, they had a daughter. I don't think what my dad did was right and I'm not trying to define him, but he realized that what he did wasn't a great decision. But what's done is done. You know? I already found out and the truth is out in the open. I have a full sister who is 15 month older than me and a younger half brother who is 5. They are my biological siblings. My dad... The one who adopted me has 2 kids. A boy and a girl. Their not my biological siblings but I'm related to them bc I am adopted. The boy is a year younger than me. He actually turns 19 in 2 weeks. Right before I turn 20. The girl is 15. I've been in contact with the boy and I've actually listed him a's my brother on facebook. He's a nice guy and he's treated me really nice. My mom has pretty much accepted him but she won't accept the girl. She's trying o add me on facebook but my mom wont let me add her. I mean I understand it's a touchy situation but it not that big a deal either. It's not like I hang out with them or anything, I've just been the bigger person and accepted their existence. It doesn't mean I have to talk to their mother. But, we have the same dad and my dad has been my dad, despite all that has happened. How can I explain this to my mom? Mind you she really doesn't like this girl. But it's not like were gonna be hanging out. I mean, she's in high school. But, I want to accept her an I don't want her to hate me bc I don't hate her. By the way, my mom ha a facebook bs she would c I add her (link)
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The girl is no different from you - placed in a situation in life that has nothing to do with her, and everything to do with the decisions OTHER people made. She shouldn't suffer because of the mess your parents all got into. Friend her. If you're curious, get to know her. If you're not, don't. Deal with the other stuff as it comes up. Your mom is being unreasonable. You can calmly explain to her your side of the situation, but honestly, if she can't accept it, let her stew. Its her problem and its not fair she's making it your problem too.
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Rating: 5
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I told her exactly what you told me and she accepted things a little better. Thanks. Your choice of words was perfect :) God bless
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