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i'm in a long distance relationship i'm 21 he's 23, he changes his miind alot and i dont know what to do , i know best would be to not be with him, but i wanna be with him i think something is wrong with me , cause he is not nice all the time, actually he is very mean sometimes calls me horrrible names insulting me but then next day he is like saying he is gonna move to my city and started looking for appartments and all so i dont understand if he acts that way cause maybe wants me to end the relationship or he just doesnt care or knows what he wants, he says he wants to be with me however he always imply that he knows im cheating (which ive never done) and actually one time we broke up for like 2 days he hooked up with a girl next than 24 hrs later ...and told me about it like 2 months after that happened .. i dont know what to do anymore to be honest..because one day he tells me he loves me and that he doesnt mean it when he calls me horrible names, but then next day if i dont pick up one of his calls or take some minutes to reply to his texts he starts calling me names, i always reply very fast and he NEVER does , sometimes he even dissapears for a complete day ! like 2 days ago he got upset cause i didnt took his calls and i stayed over at my friend's but the truth is my phone battery died i explained and still he started calling me a slut..we were still discussing that on the 31st in the morning and from 4 pm on he didnt took my calls or reply to my texts until today january 1st at 2 pm.....and he didnt even reply he just asked "what did you do yesterday i know you hooked up " and i was like no i didnt etc why didnt you took my calls etc . he said he was asleep which i dont believe, then he confessed at night he was at this party, but im like he usually replies even when with friends and he doesnt when he's with girls obviously so my guess he was with girls ... instead of trying to prove me wrong he was just like whatever you're a slut anyway...and i was like please stop messaging me i dont wanna talk to you anymore or anything else to do with you, he started texting me really mean stuff like you're a total slut (when he's the one that has been sneaky about stuff) and i'd never be serious with you unless its about f***ng you, and i didnt reply to that , he started texting me messages like oh you want me to f*ck you right ? (i didnt reply) and he started sending lots of messages like this :S like how he wants me to treat me like a slut and stuff etc. ...my guess is he did this so i would get upset and stop replying cause after that i tried talking to him and he didnt took my calls so im guessing he was being mean to keep me a way for the day and go out without me bothering him or whatever that's about cause he is usually all over me asking where im at and today he hasnt even asked cause obviously he doesnt want me to ask him., my point is sometimes he does stuff like blaming me for hidding stuff (which ive never done) blamming me for having lots of guy friends (which i dont even have ) blamming me for liking other guys when the truth is he is the one who admited to hooked up with a girl he thought was really hot, ...like he has no reason to tell me this stuff and still he does it i have even thought maybe he does it cause he wants to feel less guilty for maybe doing this things by blamming me or assuming i do them too, but then he also tells me he's gonna move to my city and live with me :S !!! i dont know what to do im so desperate i know its stupid sometimes he is very sweet but he's being really mean all the time now , like i would understand if he doesnt want me but then why is he asking all the time where im at and asking if im into other guys when even he was seeing this other girl behind my back, i dont know what to do has anyone ever had an experience like this ? another thing he doesnt trust me cause of the distance, he lives in britain and i live in america but he would come visit etc
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(Rating: 5) thanks for the advice, and well talking to him isn't an option he never wants to listen to anything i have to say regarding the way i feel eventho i NEVER yell back at him while im being called a slut and stuff like i hope you die etc etc he even has said stuff like i hope you get raped for going out dressed like a slut and stuff like that well that happened only twice (tonight and one time before) he always says he didnt meant it , but im really really trying to leave him thanks for the advice