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i'm a 18 year old girl and I am having some problems.. does anyone have any advice on how i get get over bad memories?? they arent my mistakes.. its just bad things like parents fighting, breakups, bad grade etc.
I realized that i'm always in such a bad/sad mood and i always find my self thinking about past memories that make me sad or put me in a bad mood.. sometimes i even feel anxiety. my chest beats really fast and i feel nervous and my stomach aches.. i don't know what to do.. i feel like i can't breathe.
does anyone have any advice for me? please.. (link)
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Best thing I ever did for myself was therapy. It was a safe and private place to talk about my bad memories and things from the past that hurt me. Sometimes just the act of saying those things out loud can be enough to set you free. I understand that therapy can be an expensive solution. If you feel comfortable, talk to one or both of your parents about maybe finding some counseling services through their insurance. If you can't do that, check at school for counseling services, or do a google search on local services available in your community. Sometimes community centers will offer free counseling services to young people. If you can't do any of those things, a trusted church/religious leader or a close friend will be good. You need someone to talk to about these things. When you keep them inside they get bigger than they were in the first place, and that's what makes you physically ill. When you let them out, its like letting the air out of a balloon.
The good news is, you won't always feel like this if you can find the right people to talk to. Good luck!
P.S. - in response to your feedback - its a start. But I do think its better to have someone you can sit down with. But your friend is a great person to vent to from time to time, so that IS a wonderful blessing to have someone like that. But there's no replacement for having a person in the same room. It adds to the ease of the situation.
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ah thank you! i do have one best friend who i tell EVERYTHING to.. but he doesn't live in the same state as me, so we mainly just talk on the phone or email. is that ok too? or should i find someone to talk to in person?
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