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Background: I met my boyfriend online, 2 years ago, and he moved from Florida to Missouri for me after a year of dating. We were really serious, and into each other. My parents disagreed with me dating him because we are different nationalities, and different religions. My parents aren't religious at all but they disliked the idea of me going against my culture. In June of 2010, I moved out of my house and in with my boyfriend.
Lately, I just haven't been happy with him. I realized how messy he is, how aggressive he is, how constantly unhappy he is, and it's the complete opposite of everything I am. I am always neat, meak, and optimistic. I'm not sure if I'm unhappy with him because I've been really stressed with school and work, or if I am interested in someone else, or because he is messy and psycho at times.
The extent to his crazyness is when he chokes on a piece of food, he will flip it off, flip the plate, curse at it, "teach it a lesson" & "punishment."
I just need an overview of someone else's thoughts. (link)
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Sounds to me like emotionally you have already checked out of the relationship. Do the both of you the kindness and favor of checking all the rest of the way out, physically, as well. Whatever the reasons for your unhappiness, you've identified the relationship as part of the problem. Maybe some distance and time will give you clarity. In the meantime, don't worry about being embarrassed about it not working out. You're grown, you tried something, it didn't work out, end of story. Everyone has to live and learn and make their own mistakes. You have nothing to be ashamed of if you leave. You should only be ashamed if you let embarrassment or cowardice keep you in a relationship that is clearly not good for you anymore. Good luck.
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Thank you so much, you were very helpful.
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