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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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So I should be a normal 18 year old in a lot of ways but I've started to feel really abnormal recently. I don't feel like I know why I'm doing what I do anymore. Things just seem depressing and pointless. I'm either working or eating or sleeping; I have no life.
I'm in the middle of my university applications so this is a really bad time to feel down. Any advice?
i'm in the same boat.
things will get better. just look on the bright side. i think you might need a break. take a day off of life. go to the spa. spoil yourself. do WHATEVER makes you happy. put a smile on your face :) push aside the applications and the homework for a day. let your mind take a breath.
then, after you've refreshed yourself.. take things slowly. one step at a time. baby steps. start with one thing. pick something. like college apps. set aside time for that. like a long weekend. push yourself to get it over with. tell your friends to encourage you. tell your parents to force you to finish them. once they are over with, imagine you taking a huge breath of relief and thinking "its finally over with" and imagine how relaxed you'll be after they are over.
then pick a new topic and fix your problems with baby steps.
i also think you're wayy too stressed. you need to lighten up and have some fun :) call up some friends and throw a party just for the hell of it. blast the music and dance and sing horribly. put on make up and dress up and go out one night to a movie.
research shows that if you're feeling sad/bored/depressed, its because you haven't been getting out. you need to push yourself out of your little security bubble and try new things. get a wild haircut you normally wouldn't. buy clothes that you normally wouldn't wear. hang out with people that you haven't seen in a while. drive somewhere new. eat something different.
just relax. TAKE DEEP SLOW BREATHS.
i'm originally from europe and ever since i've moved here i've noticed that americans are so stressed out. americans need to learn how to relax. life is so short. you don't want to look back and think- wow i was so stressed. one day, don't plan anything. its called the joy of nothing. europeans do it A LOT. don't make any plans and just go with the flow. relax at home and see where life takes you. americans are so caught up with everything.. school, work, feeding the dog, taking care of children, pay the taxes blah blah blah. you don't live life for long. have some fun and enjoy being young :)
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