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I am a 18 yr old f. Several answers would be appreciated. I have met a guy who I relate to in so many ways. I have never felt so comfortable around any other guy before; it feels as if I have known him for years. He is 35. My heart tells me it is so right, but my head tells me he might be too old. Usually I would think 10 years is a good gap to date someone, but my parents are 15 years apart... What do you think? I am very mature and I would never do anything that I'd think to be a stupid decision. Never drank or did drugs in my life and don't plan to. He has never done this either. Thanks in advance!
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He is one year off of double your age.
You probably can't see it at 18, at 35 it's normally pretty easy for a guy to seem more together than he is, and more mature. You know, as long as he's not like still in his mother's basement or something.
A guy who meshes well with an 18 year old at 35 in a romantic sense has something wrong with him. Some degree of fundamental immaturity which will probably destroy the relationship as you outgrow him.
There are absolute limits to how mature you can be at 18. Seventeen years of life experience and perspective is supposed to make a ton of difference. If he's attracted to you in a serious way that means that those years didn't make the difference they should have. It means there's something wrong with him.
Might take you years to grow up enough to see through it. But unless you also never grow up eventually you'll be entirely incompatible.
When you've grown up a little more you'll probably be in a position to see some of the things that you wouldn't notice about him now.
Every 18 year old thinks they're very mature. Every 18 year old who actively expresses it is really an 18 year old who's never really experienced much of anything of life. As proof of your maturity you started listing things you've never done, and that he's never done.
In 10 years you should be demonstrating your maturity by listing things you've actually accomplished. Because that's what life is about. It sounds like you hooked a guy who's pretty close to the 35 year old virgin and he seems worldly and mature because you're only 18 and using yourself as a basis for comparison, not other 35 year olds who actually have their shit together.
It's nothing against you. At 18 you're not supposed to be as mature as a normal, well adjusted 35 year old.
And don't let your parents relationship fool you. 15 years is alot at any age under 60.
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Also, because I'm a guy and I remember being in the teenaged dating range, he could just be a little creepy and really into dating girls who fit in the "barely legal" category and be lying to you about everything.
I've known creepy guys like that. I'd guess you've got a roughly 1 in 10 chance that he's a creepy douchebag. Keep an eye out, just because he seems awesome and you get along doesn't mean it's time to let your guard down. If sex comes up anytime soon, take note of that fact, because if he's not incredibly immature and falling in love with you, there's really only one other thing he could be after.
I'm sure you'd say he's absolutely not and he's wonderful and you trust him and he'd never do anything like that. I'm sure pretty much every other 18 year old who's been unknowingly used by a pervy guy in his mid 30s would have said the same thing.
Paying attention and approaching the situation with just the slightest hint of paranoia can't hurt, can it?
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Did I say I was stupid? Of course I know there are a lot of pervs out there and I would never let my guard down unless I knew he wasn't one. I take note of EVERYTHING he says that may even RELATE to sex. I am a very together girl who watches to see if Any guys a perv or not, mature for his age, and if he is being honest. I question everything that he tells me. I've already had a lot of shit in my life so I don't need anymore. I really take pride in my life and don't just f it up like all these other teenagers I know. I was just thinking friends, then dating would be a gigantic leap for even me. Believe me, I AM a lot 'paranoid' about this kind of thing.. to answer my question: I was just wondering if age is always a problem
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