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I am a junior in high school and a friend I have known since 1st grade has taken his life Monday night. Everyone believes it is due to bullying. Yet, my school is not doing any thing about it. Nothing. That makes me so incredibly mad. That just makes it look like it's okay for people to be bullied and have someone take their life. These past few days have been hard and the situation at school with no actions being taken is making it an incredible amount more hard. I can't get the picture of his helpless body hanging there in his closet.. I want to do something for him. I want to do a candle light service or make a memorial somewhere so the people that bullied him can actually admit that they messed up and that this boy was loved. He has put a smile on my face numerous times through out my 11 years of school with him and right now I just want to put a smile on his face in Heaven. How do I go about doing this? Do I have to go through my school to have a candlelit service? Do I need a permit to build a memorial for him? I know I am going to need a lot of people to help and I'm sure I can find quite a few people whose lives he blessed. Just help me out with what I can do for him. Thank you so much. (link)
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I came to post something kind of like SolidAdvice4Teens.
Go to his family. Talk with them. Tell them what you're feeling and ask them if it's ok with them for you to go to the media.
If this becomes national news (it's entirely possible) or even any kind of local fuss there's a good chance that the family will come under media attention, which can be invasive. Ask them if they're willing to or want to submit themselves to that. They might want to, to raise awareness (thats a good thing) or they might want to keep their grief quiet.
You should respect their wishes either way, but just talking to his family and letting them know that you knew their kid and wish you could have done something for him, will help them. Knowing their son was loved outside their home and giving them your perspective adds another layer of memories they can keep of their son/nephew/cousin/sibling/etc.
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