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Hello there. I'm 18, and a female. I've been dating my boyfriend for over three months, but we've been friends even longer than that. Anyways, I was friends with him when he was with his past two exes. The one was really outgoing, nice(to a point), and was his longest relationship. He used to talk about shit he used to do with her and stuff. I know I shouldn't really hold that against him, seeing he did that before he knew I liked him. But the thing his, I can't stand thinking about it. And I do it sometimes by accident. Like looking through Facebook pictures of people and finding pictures of them together. It really kills me inside. In fact, his mom even accidently called me by her name today. Not the best thing in the world. The thing is, I'm nothing like her. I have really bad depression.. and I'm very negative. Apparently they never fought, but we do a lot. I just.. feel like I'm letting him down by being like that. In fact, its seemed like that a lot lately. Not sure what to do. Any advice? (link)
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Don't compare yourself to her because you're right you aren't her. Think of it this way he's clearly with you for a reason and there is a good reason why they aren't together. Jealousy isn't the best thing for a relationship it can cause confusion and heartbreak. I understand you care about him but if you already are fighting about things this is not something you want to add to the mix. For me I always believed that other girls who were crushing on my boyfriends deserved a stern talking to. My boyfriends would find it cute but would reassure me that I need not worry about a thing. It wasn't until my last boyfriend that I felt my worth and felt that I was the ONLY girl he was thinking about.
Most guys look or talk to other girls just to see your reaction or to get a reaction out of you. Don't give it to him...and maybe instead of concerning yourself with what was why not concern yourself with what is going on now. She and him aren't together...you and him are and right now thats whats important. Live in the NOW not the past it'll make things complicated. Good luck!
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