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my boyfriend and I are at the point where we just fight all the time. I dont know why. I say he pushes me into theses fights, he says im too confrontational etc. etc. blah blah. Its just stupid and we keep creating more problems. It isnt fun anymore. I dont know what to do. Does it sound like maybe we should just move on? Any advice please.

Ok, remember that it takes two to tango. If you guys have been fighting more often, it's not one or the other's fault, it's both.

When you talk to him, use statements that begin with "I feel" instead of "You are." When you tell someone that they are doing something wrong, they are most likely going to go on a defensive/offensive mode.

But on the other hand if you use "I feel" statements, they can't tell you you're wrong about how you feel, because that's what's inside YOU.
For example; "You don't listen to me" as opposed to "I feel like you don't listen to me."

Step number one in avoiding conflicts is STAY CALM; probably the most important step. Never raise your voice. That just causes more tension between you guys.

If he's one of those people who feel they need to let out all they have to say first, then let him explain everything to you until he is done talking. Then respond with something that you both can work with. Win win result is what you want.
If you don't agree explain; above all stay calm and try to see things with his eyes.

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