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Well i used to be really really jealous and me and my boyfriend of four years broke up because of it, because he kept lying to not hurt me, and it bothered me when he watched porn and stuff, but later he begged me back and he said he loved me & wanted me back. So now that we were together i asked him not to look at porn and if he wanted pictures or something i would send him some and even though i'm trying to get un-jealous like before i wouldn't let him go out without me(yeah i was psycho lol) but now i let get him get away with a lot but i still have jealous thoughts every once in a while, so the day before i wanted my moms number that he had on his phone and i had just gotten a new phone so i asked him for it and he didn't want to give it to me so i got suspicions? And i was like are you doing something wrong? Later he admitted he had porn on it, and i got kinda upset in my head, and later i couldn't stop thinking about it and i was sad and basically said told him i know it's because they look better or you fantasize about other girls but i was saying it not asking it.It was really supposed to be a rhetorical question. And he said well i do fantasize about other girls cause you're the only one i've been with, ( i told him he wasn't supposed to answer and he said he didn't know) and that hurt me really bad and i was like so you'd go with another girl and do her and he said "i just want to" and i was like so you do want to, and he said yeah. Like is that normal? Should i be mad or break up with him? Like now it disgusts me cause we're not even married like i know that happens to married people that have been together for a long time, but us i'm young i have the same body as the porn stars except without the fake big boobs mine are real so i just don't know how to react or what to do. i Just hung up on him cause without saying anything cause this happened right before he went into work so he didn't call back.
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Nope. You're wrong. People have been married for a long time don't turn to porn to get turned on. People who are "sick" turn to porn to get turned on. I can't say for sure, since I really don't know your relationship, but its my guess that the real issue isn't you at all. I think your boyfriend has a porn addiciton. Yes, porn addiction is VERY real and destructive. You say you are pretty attractive, so obviously its not about looks for him. He has other things he's dealing with. So in a way, you can feel a little better knowing its not really you, but the flip side of that is that you have a bf who is addicted to porn! Do an internet search on porn addiction and start finding out what the "signs" of addiction are. Maybe you'll be more clear about the situation and what to do about it if you understand a bit more about it... but in the meantime, to protect yourself and your heart, break up with this guy. He doesn't have your best interests and heart, right now.
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I'm not sure if he does have a porn addiction, but thanks for trying to help anyway!:)
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