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18/f my friend Deliah is 17 and I think she is goin to get hurt. She met this guy when we were at this water park. We were staying there over night and he was the concierge. She talked to him and at first we were all just kidding around, next
thing I know she asks for his number. He's 21 and is really weird. He's rude and I don't trust him. I just don't get a good vibe. Also, he told her how his last girlfriend was a stripper. The one before that cheated on him three times. Then, he says he's in college but not going right now at all, because he is waiting for one specific class. She called him one day at like 2 and he was like why'd you call you woke me up. And she was like why aren't you up yet. And he's like because I always wake up at 3. He sounds like such a bum. Also, he lives an hour and a half away. He wants her to come down all the time. Deliah hasn't told her parents about him. Deliah is a realy really good girl, she's actually pretty prude, which gets annoying sometimes, but she's also a huge push over. I'm really worried about her safety. I knowthis is far fetched maybe, but what if he tries to rape her or something. I mean honestly, what does a 21 year old guy want to do with a 17 year old girl? She just turned 17 over a week ago too. He turns 22 soon. I like older guys too. But not that old, and I'm also 18. At least i'm considered an adult. I know I can't force her to do or not do anything, but what should I say? How should I say it? My other best fried who is very close to deliah also wants to say something (link)
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You need to confront D about this and tell her your concerns, which are very real and VALID... her behavior is cause for alarm. I think your instincts are right about this. In the end, you can't stop her from doing anything she really wants to do, but you CAN make sure she knows what you think and what danger could be involved. Do an internet search for stories about girls and "date rape"... lots of scary stuff out there! And don't be afraid of her anger. She may not appreciate your opinion and even be mad at you, but if you love her you will be able to handle it. I'd rather my friend hate me than be hurt because I didn't give her fair warning! She is lucky to have someone like you in her life. I hope she listens to you, but if not, you can at least have the peace of mind of knowing you did all you could. Good luck.
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Yeah, and I was saying to her like he's going to want sex soon and howdo you know he doesn't have STDs when he dated a stripper. & who knows what other girls he's hooked up, he just seems shady.
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