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So, I am 18f. I have a boyfriend that is the sweetest guy I have ever met. He has a sense of humour, a great personality, and a loving heart. What I am wondering is how can I get him to try new things? I love upbeat music, dancing, sports, and art... where he loves things like hard metal, football, and horses. He hasn't said he loves me yet, but you can just tell how he feels when he is with me. I just have a hard time really connecting to him on a deeper level. Sure he is a sweet, awesome guy, but I still wonder if we are ever going to be able to connect on a different level, you know what I mean? I just think that when you find that one person and you truly love them, you should be able to connect with them, be able to tell them anything, and have that romantic spark in your relationship. I don't feel that I have that level of a relationship with him even though he is a great guy otherwise. I sometimes feel like I should be dating someone I can connect with on a deeper level. I am not going to just give him up though because I feel this way. What do you think I should do? Should I be staying with him and then if I ever find someone I can relate with better... choose that person? Please help me, thanks!
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You already know the answer to your own question. If you really do believe that he is sweet and loving, don't you want your boyfriend to have the chance to be with a girl who can also appreciate those things AND have a connection with too. You're absolutely right about feeling that connection. If you don't have it, you're just friends, and you might be missing out on "the one" by spending so much energy trying to make this relationship that should really be a friendship work. So while it may hurt the both of you, the fair and mature thing is to both move on. Believe me, when you finally DO find that connection, you'll wonder why you wasted so much time worrying about this. Good luck!
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