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Q: Okay, so I have known this guy for like almost a year. When I first met him, he had a girlfriend. So we became really good friends; basically bestfriends, but we never hung out. I started to like him, a little more than I would let myself believe. Well now him and his girlfriend have been broken up for almost four months, and they was originally together for 11 months. So, about 2 months ago he told me I was the first girl he has cared about since his ex. He told me he liked me, and I admitted to him that I liked him too. He told me that Im the only girl he has cared about hurting since her, and he cares about how I feel ALOT. He said that since he just got out of a year relationship, he doesn't want to rush into another relationship because he's still pretty heartbroken from his ex, and he just wants to enjoy being single. I told him I understood. So we're "talking". We aren't exclusive though. He's talking to other girls too, and I can't pull myself to be "talking" to any other guys except him.

Well, after three days of us "talking" we hung out. We didnt do anything because I was so nervous. The next day, he hung out with this girl for the first time, and had sex with her. He told me, and I cried. He apologized. Two weeks later, he pulled the same stunt again, but told me in person. I cried again, and his eyes started to water up, and he said he felt bad. I get jealousy super easy, so when he tells me this, I get mad, and I always say "You dont care about me, if you did you wouldnt be doing this. Its one thing to be talking to another girl and just kissing her, but having sex with her is crossing the line" and he says he doesnt even like them like that blah, blah blah. Well, two days ago, he had sex with another girl. I went off. And now he says that he needs time to think about what he wants, and I told him that its probably just because he realizes that I aint putting out, and all sorts of stuff.

He hasn't talked to me all day today, I've texted and called him, but NO reply. Idk what to do. I understnad he's single, and he needs to experiment cause he's been tied down for a year, and i care about him enough to stick by his side, but idk why he's ignorin me or anything. Any advice would be helpful.
He's on the rebound. He is not stable. To tell the truth he probably really does like you and holds you to a higher regard than the others, the fact is he still keeps talking to you, but honestly you got to give some time to let that boy get things through his head. Trying to be a real girlfriend with him right now to him will only get you hurt, cause they never last. Never.
Being jealous doesn't help. If you care enough to stay by his side, you will care enough to leave him alone, and only talk to him when he needs a sane person. Bring up the discussion much later when he is over this. If he was in that relationship for a year, you need to give him a minimum of another 2 months in addition to the two he's already been out of it.

It sucks, and probably not what you want to hear.. but I dont do this to be popular. (I do it for chicks) anyway... remember I'm sure he's a cool dude.. but you take care of #1 and only get with a dude that is 100%in the game

Well today he told me it would be best for me if we was just friends; and I told him if that was what he wanted than so be it; but if hes only doing it for my best interest dont bother because I don't care whats best for me, I want him, and Im willing to wait for him and stay by his side as just "talkin" until he is fully ready. And all he said was ok. Hes very short with me, always has been. So I didn't talk to him for the rest of the day; than I get to work, and he blows my phone up saying "I really needed a friend right now, but you wont talk to me. So Im done with you, lose my number" and the only reason why I didn't text back was because I was at work, and I can't just pull out my phone and text him as soon as he texts me or I'll get written up. I explained that to him, and he has just ignored me. When its all about him is when he wants to talk, but if I ever NEED anything, advice, someone to cheer me up, he always ignores me. Idk.

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