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so all my friends have already had sex, and me, well, i havent. im scared its gonna hurt and such. i have a very low pain tolerance. its beyond low. anyways, i feel like im uncomfortable with my body. im comfortable with it, i just dont know if im comfortable with anyone else seeing it. i really love my boyfriend and when its the right time, i wanna do it for the first time with him, but i wanna make sure im comfortable. is there anyway to do this? and is there any explanation for the way i feel?

I think if your not comfortable, it means your not ready. All my friends were having sex before me too. I had sex when i felt comfortable. Im a self consciouse person but my partner helped me feel comfortable and thats when i did it, i was ready.

That was one of the things i was scared too of the pain. But maybe thats just an excuse we make up because we are new to it and we are not ready.

When i did it for the first time, it hurt the first couple of times, but i did it without thinking twice, it felt right and i was comfortable. So dont rush into it because everyone one is doing it. Do it once your ready.

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