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Ello ^^; Name's Maria. I love giving people my opinion about their situations to try and help them see things from different angles and finally helping them come up with the best possible solutions. I am willing to answer a question from any category to the best of my knowledge. I've been through quite a bit myself, who hasn't? In some of my answers, I'll give examples of situations in my life in which I can relate to. It all depends on the type of question I am asked and how it is asked. I like to read things that make sense, but if you have trouble explaining your situation, I won't give up on you for a mix up on words or terrible grammar; you're only human ^-^. Overall, I hope I can help as much as possible with my advice. I will always try to say things in the nicest way possible so as not to hurt anyone's feelings; nonetheless, I'll be fairly honest with you. If you've read this far into my description, thank you for your time, and hopefully your life is running smoothly at the moment. If you're worried about something and you are confused on what to do about the situation, feel free to ask away! I'm glad to help. :)

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whenever my friends and i hang out, they'll be talking and i'll listen. but then i'll try to talk about something that happened to me and they won't act like they're listening or they'll say something else that happened to them immediately after. it even happens with my boyfriend. its not like i'm quiet and awkward, these are people that i've known for years and years. how do i get people to listen to me? its causing me to be stressed and upset and i'm tired of feeling like no one.

I know what you mean. I have friends that I've known for years that just talk right over me and I feel small. Think about this: When a person is quiet and does more listening than talking, I notice that when they do have something to say, everyone is at attention. That is because they've heard too much out of the same people and themselves, and they want to know what you have to say. The more you listen, the more valuable will be what you have to say.

If my friends not only talk over me but ignore me overall, I don't go up to them and try to hold up a conversation. It's better to be around people who care about what you have to say, don't you think? Which is why I stop begging and going up to them and keep trying to be heard or anything like that. I'd rather be around people who don't treat me like a mat by the door.

Be smart, and let them talk first. Then again, if they know that most of your responses to their conversations are silly answers or you joke around about everything that you say, then that's another case. They won't take you seriously like that. Which is why they will talk over you.

Finally, if after you've done all this, they still talk over you like you don't exist, I say you ditch those people. They won't do any good to your self-esteem. Those people will just make you feel miserable. Time to socialize with other people who know how to have a good conversation where everyone gets a chance to express themselves and talk about their opinions. Good luck :)

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(Rating: 5) its gotten a little bit better, as long as we're not in a group or anything. like if its just one friend and myself. still working on it though. thanks :)
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