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Im 18 male she is 21 female. So basically over the summer I fell in love with a girl i met in early july and finally asked her to be my girlfriend in august. We live 2 hours away and neither of us can drive. I spent 3 weeks in August at her house (she lives alone) and we had an amazing time. Although we argued a bit and stuff cause we dont know eachother that well. She just broke up with her boyfriend of a few years and I guess still has feelings for him or whatever. I only asked her out while I was there because I didnt know when we would see eachother again due to school for us. I told her multiple times i understand if she wants to say no right now because she still has feelings for her ex. I asked her out and a few days later she said yes. I truly love her with all my heart and give 100% into our relationship and I feel like she doesnt. She tells me she loves me and cares about me alot I know she does but sometimes it doesnt seem like it. While I was with her she hurt me a few times minorly but I told her right away. Anyways Im back home now and we are 2 hours away and I miss her like crazy. All I do is think about her and want to talk to her. I think I might come off to strong towards her its just I really deeply love her but I deffinally know she is not crying herself to sleep like I am. So My questions are. 1. How can I make our relationship better. 2. How can I stop missing her as much and calming myself down?.

Well I agree with the other person about it takes two people to make the relationship better. You can not make the relationship better alone although you can do your part. If you do not get it in return then there is nothing you can do. About the coming off to strong, maybe you are in this case just seeing how she just broke up with her boyfriend of a few years. Since you both are two hours away there is absolutely no reason for you not to miss her however, realize that you both have seperate lives. Have fun with your friends to keep yourself from getting to worked up over missing her, but thinking about her is not a bad thing. Just do things that interests you in order to get your mind off of it. Even people that are in a relationship that live in the same house need time to their selves every once in a while.

Hope I could help. (:

---Taylor

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