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Gender: Male
Location: Lebanon
Age: 15
MSN: jad_iskandar_95@hotmail.com
Member Since: July 9, 2010
Answers: 12
Last Update: October 11, 2010
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Im 17/f , & I will be 18 in Nov. Michael is 16 & will be 17 in Oct. He is the youngest guy I have dated. We have been dating for 4 months. He's my first serious relationship I have had since my ex Thomas in 06'. When he first asked me out, I said yes, but I felt like I made the wrong decision cause I was scared of what people would think of him cause he isn't the cutest thing in the world, but he's sweet. I gave him a chance, cause I didn't want to be shallow & miss out on a good guy. After 2 months, I told Michael that I had an ex (Thomas) coming over to see my family cause he was really close to them, & Michael didn't care at all; he trusts me. Thomas & I sat in his truck just bringing up our past, & it brought back a lot of memories. He said he still loved me, & that when im 18 he was going to ask me back out, cause he is 21 & his parents weren't okay with the age difference. He was aware about my new boyfriend. We didn't do anything, NOT EVEN HUG. After he left, I started having mixed emotions about if i wanted to be with Michael or not, so I talked to him about it, & explained how I felt to him; days went by & I had a feeling inside me that I felt guilty, but I had nothing to feel guilty over. I finally broke up with him; I felt happier; but than again I felt as if something was missing. When I left him, he cried & was very hurt; we talked & got back together cause we both thought it was Thomas's presents that I was feeling this way; and we also thought that it was the fact that we barely hung out with each other. So we started hanging out alot more & the mixed emotions went away. We had sex once a couple of weeks later. Ever since then we have been fine until Friday; I told him I wasn't in love with him but I do love him; he said he was in love with me. My mixed emotions are coming back. I brought it to his attention again, & he says its cause Im on my period, cause last mixed emotions happen while I was on my period also. I feel as if our relationship is boring. We have tried new things, but our relationship doesn't get any better to me. When we hang its like we are bestfriends, but I know I like him as more. Looks aren't everything, hes a good guy which makes me like him more.We use to be able to talk on the phone for hours, & now I dont like talking to him any longer than maybe 10 minutes on the phone cause he irritates me. The littlest things he does gets on my nerves, & I don't understand why. I use to love to kiss him, but now I don't. I have no problem cuddling with him, but its only when I want too. I dont want to hurt him, cause he has treated me the best that I have ever been treated & he had a rough past where people would just walk out of his life & I dont want to be like that. Sometimes I find him immature, even though he really isn't. He just doesn't think before he speaks. He has tried to change himself to keep me, but I dont want him being something he's not. I know its not lust, cause we aren't all over each other, & I dont like doing sexual things with him. I just really don't know what to do.I've been thinking that maybe it's the fact that I like the idea of having a boyfriend, but Im not too sure. I don't want to break up with him, and than regret it, but I dont want to stay with him just to get him more attached to me and than hurt him more. Its like when I break up with him, I feel heartbroken & I want him back, but when I take him back, I dont want to be with him. Im lost, and confused.

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Hey.
You shouldn't had sex with him if you dont like him. that will get you more attached to each other. You're feeling that he's immature because he's maybe younger than you. If you're not too confident about your relationship, just tell him what you feel and dont worry about feeling heartbroken. ITS NORMAL. it will go away in a few days or weeks. Maybe you love Thomas and thats whats leading you to being irritated by Michael.
You gave michael a chance and its ok if you broke up. Hope I helped.


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Yeah well, I thought I did. My head was playing so many tricks on me, and I got very confused with what my head was saying, and my heart. But last night I broke up with him. He says he wasnt good enough for me, and that he knew I was going to break his heart; and I told him he had nothing to do with how I felt. I don't know why I felt that way, but I did. After I broke up with him, I felt like a sigh of relief; but than as it sank in that we wasn't togethre, I started feeling an intense pain inside, like Im nervous, but Im not.




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