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Q: I have been married one year. My husband doesnt work and doesnt look for a job. Ever since we have gotten together I have noticed a huge change in my 3 year old sons behavior. he doesnt listen to anyone he acts up a lot. yells at everyone. My husband doesnt help me with the kids, house work anything. I am only 19 years old. I have two children. I am orignally from ohio but i moved to missouri two years ago with my father. I have no family here other than my father. I want to move back to ohio. but dont want to leave my father. I have been trying yo get my husband to help and look for a job since october. everytime i talk to him about it he helps for a day or so and then everything goes back to the way it was. I am miserable and feel my son deserves better. Sometimes i feel guilty that i plan on leaving my husband any advice??
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in a nut shell; i was moved by your note/question. You are nineteen and lost and you probably feel you are drownding....yes?
In short, no one changes unless they want to change, and no ammount of coaxing, pressuring, yelling or making love is going to change that fact...
you need to focus your concern on your children' they are your top priority, period. The reason the boy acts up is most likely due to lack of attention from 'dad', so he acts out to be heard and seen...this will pass i promise. However, your woes over hubby will not...
there is a recession on i realize that, and depending on what kind of back ground/education/training he has had may factor in to his dilemia....
how does he feel about the millitary? seriously. It would help him to provide for his wife and children, both, all of which are his responsibility...
please feel free to contact me for more help; as i said, i was moved by your note and truly want to help, no strings or b.s. attatched...
ok...just revcieved ur reply, thanks...u may want to jump ship. he is not seeing the big picture is he? a few months for a life time of supporting his wife and kids??? i feel for u and want to help...take care
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I brought the military up to him a while back. He doesnt want to leave his family for so long. We talked and he told me hed get up in the morning finish under pinning the trailor wash dishes and even call and apply for a few jobs. as i figured he didnt do any of it. until i got upset and washed the dishes myself.
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i majored in psychology for several years so am pretty good with human nature, relationships, etc and i love to help people. Sometimes it just clicks when an answer is given, maybe worded a different way and u figure it out...drop me a question, leave a note, i'd like to hear from you...take care, and thank you for asking.
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Gender: Male Location: florida Occupation: secuirty Age: 40 Member Since: July 31, 2010 Answers: 51 Last Update: September 13, 2010 Visitors: 4882
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