Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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Alright, I put this in the category mainly because it is dealing with the health of your mental thoughts and feelings. I have been a fan of All Time Low for quite a while now, maybe 3 years. I have known for again, quite a while about Alex's brother. I have seen that Alex does sing Lullabies live sometimes and yes, he gets emotional, if he didn't, I would think something is wrong. But most people comment "I really wish he would show his real emotions. He tries to hide them so much by laughing and joking around. A defense mechanism." I have come to realize, I do this too. My great grandmother had passed 2 years ago and yet I miss her so dearly, I am not one to cry only when things get super messy, my mom says I am like a guy when it comes to feelings. But at her funeral, I could feel my tears coming and I didn't want to cry, I thought I shouldn't, so to hide them, I laughed at things and joked around. I thought it was normal, but by the comments people are leaving about Alex, they're making it sound like it's wrong to do that. To show emotions is the best thing to do. I was just wondering, do you do this too? Or do you let your emotions lay out on the table? (link)
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Everyone has different ways of coping with their emotions. Many people use humor as a way of coping, distracting themself from the pain, or hiding their vulnerability. Humor can actually help you move on from the pain. The important thing is to understand how you feel and learn how to grieve so you aren't just pushing your feelings away.
Using humor may not be the most respectful thing to do at a funeral because it may make you seem insensitive.
You don't have to be an open book, but releasing your emotions to one trusted person or into something creative like a journal, music, art work, etc. will help you cope and keep from feeling overwhelemed.
Good luck,
-Abby
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