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hiya I'm shelly, I'm 20 and from England. I have the best boyfriend in the world and he means so much to me. I love to help people and I've just started using Advicenators again. I hope i can help you all with your problems feel free to email me x

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I'm dating a 25 year old man, I'm a 20 year old woman. We are both very similar in many ways, more importantly though, we've both had bad experiences being in real relationships. We're completely exclusive, but neither of us has admitted or even hinted towards boyfriend-girlfriend status, or anything remotely close.

I stay at his house every night. I spend my days off with him. We do all the couple things, dates, dinners, cuddling, sex. Everything. We have every aspect of a real relationship without all the problems I guess. I don't really even know what's going on, or what to think of any of it.

I want to approach the subject of "us" without actually having to bring it up to him, I almost want to find a way to get HIM to unkowingly start the conversation himself. Does anyone have any ideas on how to go about doing that? Or any ideas/input/insight on this "relationship"? I'm at a loss for what to do anymore.

Maybe introduce him to your friends or ask to meet his friends and he may introduce you to them as his girlfriend.
If your parents know about him just say "my mum and dad asked if we were boyfriend and girlfriend and I didnt know what to say...are we?"

I think you are, if you do all the things that couples then it seems that way. Maybe hes just scared to bring it up or ask you properly.

I hope this helps x

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(Rating: 5) That would work, except he's met my friends and family, and I've met his friends, he doesn't really speak to his family, but we always are just like "this is [insert name]" we've never given each other a title, and asking him like that would be too out there.

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