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Age: 42
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I'm dating a 25 year old man, I'm a 20 year old woman. We are both very similar in many ways, more importantly though, we've both had bad experiences being in real relationships. We're completely exclusive, but neither of us has admitted or even hinted towards boyfriend-girlfriend status, or anything remotely close.
I stay at his house every night. I spend my days off with him. We do all the couple things, dates, dinners, cuddling, sex. Everything. We have every aspect of a real relationship without all the problems I guess. I don't really even know what's going on, or what to think of any of it.
I want to approach the subject of "us" without actually having to bring it up to him, I almost want to find a way to get HIM to unkowingly start the conversation himself. Does anyone have any ideas on how to go about doing that? Or any ideas/input/insight on this "relationship"? I'm at a loss for what to do anymore. (link)
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You're dating. You're in a relationship. Both of you are avoiding calling yourselves or each other 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend,' but that's what's going on. There may even be a sort of magic in not naming it - like it'll go away if you look at it too closely. But it won't, or at least it won't any quicker than it might anyway. Go ahead and call a spade a spade; say "hey, I noticed that we seem to be going out. You wanna make it official? Be exclusive and all that? or do you wanna see other people?"
It might be hard, but you'll have to say some variation of this sooner or later. Get it over with and I think you'll be glad.
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I think that might be why we work so well, bc we don't have that label neither of us are freaking out, feeling stuck, you know? As far as everyone sees, everyone just assumes we're together, even his friends that I'm meeting for the first time, are like "oh this is shawn's girlfriend, veronica." but as far as him and I, neither of us even acknowledge when people say stuff like that, we act like we didn't hear it, but it's obvious on both of our faces that we always do, we both temporarily freak out inside.
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