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I'm white, he's black. Is it wrong? My mom does NOT approve at all. She actually doesn't know I am dating him because of her beliefs. I don't tell many people because I'm scared of what they will say or do. I'm scared that they will disown me. There are so many racists out there, including most of the teachers in my school. When I'm with him in school, there is always fuss. Black teachers yell at us, as well as white teachers. That's just when we are holding hands. It gets really discouraging for me, and it makes me sad. I don't see him for his color, I see him for his personality. And yes, I do love him. There are some bad things about him that not many people would approve of, but he treats me good. He doesn't beat me (like a lot of white people think black people do to their girlfriends) he doesn't force sex on me or any kind of sexual act, he is just as good as any regular guy. What I am scared of, though, is that he is in a gang. He gets arrested a lot and tells me he's always fighting. He knows how I feel about his fighting and jail time. He said he wishes he didn't join the gang because he can't get out now. If I tell my mom that, she will send me off to some kind of all white boarding school. He says he loves me, too. Sometimes I want to break up with him because he is bad, but he is a really sweet, caring guy and that's what keeps me hanging on. I really don't want to break up with him. Its like, the people around me are PRESSURING me to end the relationship. Advice? (link)
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Maybe people are not starring because he is black, but they are scared that you might get hurt. Even if he is not a bad person, if he is around bad people he can drag you along. I dated a guy who was an awesome guy but he hung out with not the best people. Sadly he ended up getting murdered and I had to go to my boyfriends funeral. Its a very tragic thing, and sometimes I wonder what would of happened if I had gone with him that day. I could be dead too. You should probably ask yourself as well what kind of person and life you deserve. Is this guy really good enough for you? Now if your only issue as to why you might be thinking about breaking up with him was that others were looking down on you two, I would stay with him. I have a multi cultural family and I love it. Race is not a reason to break up with someone, but someone making not so great choices and ending up in prison might be. Hope everything works out!
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thank you and im really sorry to know you had to go through that. it hasn't even crossed my mind that someone could get murdered in this situation. that is a great warning for me. 5 stars for your amazing support.
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