Hello my names Lili. I am 20. I am college student. I honestly love people. I am a communications major. I am the go to girl for advice among my friends. You need help ask me and I will do my best to give you advice. We all need advice every once in a while. My goal is that the advice I give you will help you with whatever problem you have. I cant guarantee a perfect answer. But I can guarantee that I will try to help you.
Gender: Female
Location: California
Age: 20
Member Since: June 12, 2010
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Last Update: September 16, 2012
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. We have had sex for 6 months now with protection (condoms AND birth control pills). We're both 20 years old so we're out of high school and we live together in his mom's basement right now.
I really want to have a baby and start a family with him. I want us to get married and have a nice little life, you know? Well, I heard that it's better to have kids when you're young and able to do things with them so I think 20 sounds reasonable.
I haven't talked to my boyfriend about having children. When we starting doing it together he said all kids scare the hell out of him so he wanted to make sure we were extra safe by always using 2 forms of birth control (hence the pill & condom). I didn't say anything about it because I do want children.
I feel like my body is screaming at me now to do it. I want to tell him to not put a condom on next time and I want to stop taking my pills. I want to have a baby so bad.
How do I tell him without freaking him out? I wouldn't do something stupid like "accidently forget" my pill or something so I NEED to tell him. I need him to say he wants to have kids with me because I love him but I'm afraid he's going to hate me. What do I do? How can I tell him I want a baby? (link)
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Okay, I re read the question. There is no easy way to tell him what you want. My advice to you is this: Tell him what you want. Pour your heart out to him. Tell him what it means to you to have a baby. Give him a few days to process it. And if still isnt willing, then you have a few options. A: accept it. or B: start re thinking about the relationship with this guy. You guys want different things. Or C: Try to convince him that kids are not that bad. Maybe you guys can together offer to babysit a friends kid. Maybe it will be a pleasureable experience and he might change his mind. Good luck :)
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Please reread my question. I said I would NOT do the "forget" birth control pills thing. I also am asking for suggestions on HOW to tell him--not surprise him with a bundle of joy. Seriously.
I do appreciate the answer. Yes, I do. The problem is that half of it doesn't even relate to what I wrote. I want HOW to tell him...not HOW to trick him.
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