Hey!!
I'm Lollipop. I'm 15, but I know more than you would think. I've had my share of crap, and now I'm here to answer questions. I orginally joined this site to GET advice, but I've found that I answer more questions than I ask. I have also found that I relate to almost every love life question. Let's just say I had a tough year... So, that's my area of expertise. The one thing that bugs me the most on this site are when people say you're too young to feel what you feel. Screw that. I don't think it matters if you're 15 or 51, you know what you feel. I don't know much about sex because I believe in waiting until marriage, but I know what it's like to be pressured. Ask me something, and I will give you an answer.
xoxo
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I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 9 months now and he is absolutely amazing. Truly, he has been my rock and I have never been so in love with a person. But I am afraid I am going to ruin this relationship because I get incredibly insecure about him talking to other women - especially his ex girlfriend. Granted, he is a flirt; but he has not done enough wrong for me to feel this way. This is how I realized that it wasn't him - it's me.
I trust him but I get so upset over little things, but don't tell him because I know they're irrational. But then they just bottle up. Honestly, a girl saying hello to him triggers something in my head saying "Stay away!" and I feel like I'm losing my mind. My question is how do I move on from these feelings? How can I learn to be more understanding and not let other girls constantly bother me?
I have never been an overemotional or irrational woman, and that is why these feelings bother me so much. I don't want to be a crazy girlfriend, please help :( (link)
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Dear "Crazy Girlfriend",
You're not crazy. And your friends and family won't affect how jealous you are. It's okay to be a little bit crazy! Everyone gets jealous and everyone gets insecure. But you gotta talk to your boyfriend about it! Because nothing is going to get better unless you do.
You need to sit him down and tell him that even though you trust him 100%, sometimes you get a little insecure and jealous when you know you shouldn't be. Tell him that it's not easy to explain why you do it, but that you do and he should know about it. Women are always gonna flirt with him and talk to him. And you might always get jealous! But if he knows that you are maybe he can help you, like give you an extra little compliment to boost you up :)
I am also a very jealous girlfriend. My boyfriend talks to his ex as well. And when she started to flirt with him I didn't tell him that it bothered me. I let it all bottle up like you're doing and then one day I exploded on him. It was completely irrational. I regret it. We're still together though and we're working on my jealousy TOGEHTER which has really helped; I think it'll help you too!
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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I talked to him and he understands, I just hope this feeling fades fast! Thanks for your time :)
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