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lately Ive been having feeling towards the same sex. And it kinda freaks me out. My bestfriend says Ill get through the stage. But It freaks me out whenever Im out bra shopping or bathing suit shopping. My family is like super christian and they flip out everytime I bring over a gay friend. Im scared that this isnt just a stage of my life. What do I do if I really am gay?
Being gay, bi, straight etc is all a matter of how you feel. Everyone here has numerous opinions on the matter, but what matters is what you think. In fact, you do not even need to label yourself. These labels are based on societal norms of what male and females are supposed to be. The most important thing to know is that gender is fluid...meaning it is not black and white. You can be born male, female, or intersex, but despite these things you can identify yourself as more "masculine" or "feminine" and then can be attracted to people who are more masculine or feminine, male or female or intersex. If it helps you could map yourself on a sort of spectrum, I myself was born female, identify as a female, and am attracted to women...but if this were put on a spectrum (like a line from left to right) i would not fall all the way to one side or another.
(I know the above is confusing but please message me if you are interested in what I am saying and I can draw it out for you)
If you are just going through a stage, that is completely normal, if you continue to be attracted to the same sex then that is normal too! Do not feel that you have to label yourself based on the titles society has offered. You are your own complex person!
Now if you are actually gay, and the part of your question reffering to your family is what you are primarily worried about is how christian your family is, do not worry. I know plenty of gay men and women who come from incredibly christian backgrounds. If you message me back we can talk about this more...and interpretations of the bible are not always what they appear to be.
I hope this helps, I didnt want to go on if you disagree with what I have said or if they are not the answers you are looking for!
Good luck finding yourself, and never be afraid of who you are! The people that matter in your life will stay with you through anything and everything!
-K
(Rating: 5) thanks for the help