Gender: Female
Location: Florida
Occupation: Student
Age: 19
Member Since: September 18, 2004
Answers: 66
Last Update: July 22, 2010
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20/f, dating a 20/m.
My bf and I have been together for almost three months, and we're getting ready to start having intercourse. Niether of us are virgins, and we've done basically everything else with each other except have sex. In the past month I've begun birth control and he and I have both gotten tested for STDs, and we're planning on using condoms. So safe sex is a sure thing.
But I also believe that having a dialogue about sex before starting it is crucial, involving discussing our sexual history. I've told him about my sexual past, including funny embarassing stories and things that I do and don't like in bed. He didn't seem at all uncomfortable with hearing it and it really got us to a new level of trust. I invited him to share his experiences with me, but all he said he didn't like talking about it.
I'm really curious about his past, but I don't want to pressure him into telling me about anything that makes him uncomfortable. All I know is that he's had "Maybe just the one" previous partner, but I don't know anything else. Should I just get used to not knowing? I really don't want to pry, but if I'm going to be sleeping with him, does that make it at least a little of my business? Or no? I'm confused and I just want to know if I should drop the whole subject, and get used to being curious.
Thanks in advance! (link)
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Before my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time I knew he had had sex once with some girl WITH protection. That was all I knew before we had sex. Mostly I just wanted to make sure he had protection so he didn't have any STD's or such to share. I didn't find out the whole story until recently and we've been together for 1 year 3 months and have been having sex for 1 year 1 month. It was a really embarrassing story and I can totally understand why he didn't want to tell me. Past is the past, all you need to do is protect youself (from STD's) and the story will eventually make it's way out when he's ready. If you pressure him into making him spill it, it could hurt your trust instead of help it.
To sum it up, just find out how many people he's done what with. It doesn't matter who or under what circumstance these acts happened. Now if he wont share this basic information then he's either hiding something or trying to make you think he's had more experience than he really does.
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Thanks so much! It's nice that you can actually relate! :)
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