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HEYYY :D i'm in college and i'm a psychology major. i've had many experiences with boyfriends, crushes, friends and family. i know quite alot about sex and sex related issues, so feel free to ask me anything about that! i will be completely honest because i would want the same in return.

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(19F)

Last night I stayed at my cousin's house with her and her boyfriend. I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years and just recently met another guy. This new guy is amazing. Well, last night he came over to where I was staying and we hung out. We ended up going to get some drinks and when we got back we fooled around in his truck. Later on, after my cousin and her boyfriend went to bed and we ended up having sex. He stayed with me almost all night and I thoroughly enjoyed what we did, but this morning when I woke up I was feeling regret.

I want to stay with my current boyfriend, should I tell him what happened or should I leave it alone and just move on?

Thank you

As I have heard from many sources and people: Do not tell him.

I'll explain.... When this happens, you have to assess the situation (as it seems like you have done already). Think things through. Do you love your boyfriend? Do you want to stay with him? Do you see a future with your boyfriend?
And the more intense question to ask yourself - Why did I do this? (or What made me do this?) This might take time to answer. Once you know why this happened, you can come to the right conclusion of whether you definitely want to work things out with your current boyfriend or you don't want to stay in the relationship. Mistakes happen, it's human nature. There is no reason to bring this world of hurt onto your boyfriend if you are POSITIVE that it will not happen again. 4 years is a while, and change (like a new guy) can be thrilling and desirable, there's no shame in that. You just have to decide what you want for yourself, and do it. I know you might be feeling guilty and telling him everything will make you feel better, but it will ruin the relationship forever and will not be the same no matter what you or him do. Let go of the regret and guilt, and work on being a better girlfriend, and showing him you love him.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks a lot! That makes a lot of sense!
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