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Q: I'm too embarrassed to ask this in any other way but anonymously. I'm 19 and female.

Basically, I've never had an orgasm. I've tried to masturbate and nothing. I have a boyfriend who's gone down on me, nothing. I researched and I know the key to it is stimulating the clitoris, and I know where it should be, but I can't seem to make things work. I'm comfortable with my body, and I am so distraught and confused and upset with the fact that I can't experience what's supposed to be amazing. This isn't to say I don't experience pleasure, I just can't seem to get a big finish.

I'd heard about women who can't have orgasms in the past, and I wondered, solemnly, if I am one of the unfortunate few. Is that really possible?

I just need some solid advice. Thanks

is there something wrong with you? no. there is something called female orgasmic dysfunction. in order to get an orgasism it involves physhcology and emotional well being.and actually it turns out 1/3 of woman have difficulties. here are a few websites .
Women without orgasm: now or not ever

Rating: 4

Thanks for the advice, I think the information has just left me more distraught though. I have what's called trichotillomania, and it's left me perhaps without a decent enough emotional well being to have an orgasm. I'd like to seek help from a psychiatrist but I'm not sure how to approach my parents with that kind of information.