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Photobucket" align=left hspace=10> Allooooo~ well to start off...I go by as Dennise and giving advice is what I'm here to do and I plan to provide whatever assistance I can offer to the best of my abilities.

I've had my share of ups-and-downs (don't we all) and I'm more than willing enough to help those that ask.

In fair warning: I won't give answers that are "gusshied with sprinkles on top" (or whatever things that that line follows). I will be blunt if the situation calls for it...either you take the honest words or brush it off and go search for a lie~ all in all, it's entirely your choice.
Advice is simply there for people to brood and consider over, not a forceful act.

So feel free to ask me whatever you wish to be answered and the advice shall slide over these keyboards~ ^-^


"If it's free, it's advice; if you pay for it, it's counseling;
if you can use either one, it's a miracle."
-Jack Adams-

"If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it,
If you don't ask, the answer is always no.
If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place."
-Anonymous-







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My life has hit rock bottom. I have no hope left for myself. This year has been one of the worst years I have faced in the 20 years of my life. My college grades are anything but good. My dog passed away last month. My boyfriend of 8 months who I love, is hurt because i lied to him that i was a virgin. He won't even talk to me properly. I have absolutely no friends who I can talk to about anything. I want to end my life. I just cant continue living in pain each day with no one around to take care of me or just hold me and say that "It's gonna be okay". I try to optimistic but I'm just too lonely. What do I do?

To put it bluntly, life can suck and somehow it has the ability to bring you to the ground. But you also have that same chance to stand up and think about what you can do to make things much better for yourself. Even though it may seem like life is cruel, in a way it's more of a guiding hand to help you develop to the person you wish to be. No matter how many times life can beat us down, it gives us a supporting hand to continue forward, learn from our past mistakes, and grow stronger in the near future...life does these harsh things to people so to realize our potentials and for us to take the stand to take control of our lives.

First off: your grades. Take into consideration as to what the others advised before this one. Studying is the only solution when it comes to academic rewards. Apparently it's understandable when you're stressed out, you're not entirely to keen to the idea of motivating yourself to study. But think of studying as an escape to your problems. Primarily your mind is focused on studying, answering/pondering questions, and memorizing so you could use this as a motivation to keep your grades up.

Losing a dear, close friend (especially someone you consider your family) is hard to get through. I know the feeling, but all I can say is...you will eventually grow to accept it all. Take the time to remember precious memories you had with your dog. They may be mourned over but memories are special...those happy and sad moments you spent with your dog are what you can consider as entities of him/her (I apologize, but the gender wasn't mentioned :p). Reminiscing the past will make you cry, but he/she will always be with you so long as you keep those memories close to you and that is something that we can all be thankful for...to have memoirs of those we love.

As I've said before, when life brings you down, push yourself to make a stand. Talk to your boyfriend and if he ignores you, just tell him to listen even if he won't say anything.

Handling things on your own can be frightening and so we seek the comfort of others. It's natural for people to feel that way. Why not take the chance to go and ask someone for help with your studies? After all, you're hoping to improve on your grades. Alright, the thought of randomly asking someone to help you can be a bit nerve-racking but there's always someone out there bound to be friends with you. Everyone can't help but reach out to others. Consider this option at least. Everything has a way to turn out for the best, but you have to be patient for it and sometimes you even have to push for it.

I hope this was of some help...and it will all be alright~ I wish you luck! ^-^

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