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Well there are two boys. I don't like both of them, I'm diggin 'em. Meaning, I think both of the are cute. Please don't answer "why on earth are you liking two boys, that's awful" because I'm not. Like I've been trying to explain all day, there is a difference between thinking someone is cute and liking them. Anyway, one of them is in my gym class, let's call him A, the other is in my lunch period, let's call him J. I have been diggin A since before J. Now, both are kinda shy which is where my problem occurs. I wrote A a message on facebook telling him since he wasn't on he missed out and I'm making him talk to me Monday and I can't wait for us to finally talk. I gave him the benefit of the doubt seeming as we didn't have gym that day and didn't see each other. However, I am not going to spark a conversation first because I sent him the message first and since he wasn't on I feel like he missed out, so it has been his job to talk to me and he didn't which kinda leads me to believe he isn't diggin me back. He knows I think he's cute but he isn't making the push to do something about "us" he told my friend that he is nervous to talk to me but he shouldn't be because he knows what I think and I'm not going to be a jerk to him. He also says cute things though like "I kinda wish she will talk to me first because I wouldn't know what to say to her" and "If she won't talk, I will. Bring her to my locker so I can 'rip her out of your arms and finally talk to her"' but yet he's to nervous to talk even when he said he would and to nervous to even exchange glances with me for more than a second. Now, onto J. I walk into lunch and in order to get to my table, I have to pass his table. Every time I walk in the cafeteria door he will look at me the second I walk in the door and hold glance with me until we can't anymore (until I turn to go to my table which is behind him, so we hold our glances until he can't look at me anymore without turning around). He will always wait to throw his tray away until I do so he will be coming up the aisle and I will be going down it and we'll collide (there's two different trash areas, one for the packers and one for the buyers). Also, me and my friend'll be talking in gym and she'll look over my shoulder at J to see what he's doing and she said he is 98% of the time looking at me. I feel like J's feelings are a little more stronger and I think I'm more attracted to J, to the point where I just want to give up on A. What boy do you think has the stronger feelings? Which boy should I give a try and why? For the boy you picked what should I do to get the ball rolling? Thanks!

It's hard to tell which guy is more interested. You gotta realize that if you don't talk to them, nothing is gonna happen and nothing will change. Guys love girls with confidence. so find an excuse to talk to them and just be friends with them.

This is just my opinion ok? I think A is really shy. you gotta do some digging with this guy to see who he truly is. Get him to open up and be himself around you. If he doesn't talk that much and its hard to have a conversation, he might not be into you.

Guy J definitely has a little something something for you. If he's always looking at you and trying to be around you, he likes you. Maybe he's just shy to start a conversation. Again, you need to step it up and start talking and being friends. Get him to open up too and see where the conversation goes.

so again, just test the waters out and see who seems more involved and committed to being friends. you'll know which one seems right when the time comes. nobody can make the decision for you. you just have to have that gut feeling.

good luck!

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(Rating: 5) Thank you. This helps a lot. (:

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