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Hi, fifteen, female. There is this boy and he has been my best friend since third grade, he's the best. When I'm down, he knows and he asks me to tell him about it and everything or he'll play his guitar for me because he knows I like when he does. My mom is absolutely in love with him, she thinks we are going to grow up and get married, like most best friends do. I'm totally honest when I say I don't know my feelings for him, I thought he was just my friend but I kinda can see him as a boyfriend now. He holds open doors for me and all the gentleman-esque things. But, I look at other girls he has liked in the past and I am NOTHING like them. In class we were talking about a leader of Germany and my teacher said that the leader reminded him of Regina from mean girls. My friend mumbled something to himself but the person he sits next to heard him and asked if he liked her, he answered her and they started laughing then he turned around and quick looked at me. Everybody in my school always makes fun of us because apparently we're in "love" and we need to get together ASAP. I ask my friends why they think he likes me and they said the way he looks at me, it isn't like how he looks at other girls and how he smiles when we talk but I just looked at that as 7 years of friendship. His brother, in collage, makes fun of us too. My friend is a great guy and I trust him with my life. Both of us play instruments and one day I gave him food because he was hungry and he loved what I gave him to eat so now he asks me for them all the time, just something we share, between me and him, ya know. I guess my question is -> do you think my best friend likes me as more than his friend and if so how do I approach this situation without messing up an amazing friendship?

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I'm having the feeling he does like you.It's super sweet everything you have said but think about what you feel about him.If you like him just confront the situation but dont tell him you like him before you know he feels the same way for you.You can start the conversation like this:Hey I need to talk to you about how people at school say we are in love what do you think about that?Also I have heard rumors that you like me are they true be honest?.Be nice but confident when you talk.Good Luck!:)

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