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Q: Hi, im 14/f and my boyfriends 15. I'm an August baby, and all of my friends are september - even though we're in the same year at school, their almost a year older than me. In septmeber, when they turn 16, they'll be starting to have sex with their boyfriends. Even though i've been with my boyfriend for just as long as them (coming up 9 months)i wont be having sex until august 2011 - im not sure it's worth waiting that long.
We both love each other, and i'm not on about having sex now, maybe may next year? but i wanna know why its such a big deal to be over 16?!? should i wait - obviously i only would have sex if im ready. can i get some opinions?
Bearing in mind he'll be 17 next year. Thanks x
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I don't know where the number 16 came from.
Legally, as long as you're both under 18 or both over 18 it's fine.
But I can think of why it's important to be old enough. Not like "ONCE YOU TURN 16, YOU ARE MATURE ENOUGH." It's not like that. Adults think you should wait to have sex because when you're older, you're more likely to be aware of the ramifications.
Think about it. DO you really know all the possible consequences? Not just "i can get pregnant lol", but every other possible outcome? STDs, infections, etc.? You shouldn't have sex until you KNOW what diseases you can get from it. Because if you do get it, it can be too late.
Are you aware of any contraceptive methods? Are you prepared to deal with what will happen if your method of contraception FAILS? What if you get pregnant? Do you have a backup plan? If not, can you support a child?
Anyway, sorry if I went into Lecture Mode, but that's about it. You shouldn't tack a date and time onto when you should start having sex. And you also shouldn't do it just because your friends are. It's a matter of whether you're ready or not (mentally & physically), and whether you know enough about it and the consequences. it doesn't matter how OLD you are; numbers are meaningless. it's a matter of maturity.
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Thankyou so much - perfect answer in my eyes :D and don't worry about 'lecture mode' - it seems to get the point across! x
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