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So, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 10 months now. We're really good with one another, and he's unlike any guy I've ever met. We have a lot of differences, which is alright by me because I couldn't live without the guy. When we started dating, he was really into getting high. He does use it responsibly, but he wants to do it for the rest of his life. He claims it inspires him to write music, play guitar, and to be spiritual. I respect this. After a month of dating, I told him that him smoking bothers me (No, he didn't do it around me, I just don't support any kinds of drugs). He quit for awhile, but now it's awkward. Every time it gets brought up we get into an arguement. I'm just not sure what to do. His friends stopped talking to him because he stopped smoking, and he doesn't do what he used to anymore. It really hurts.. but I don't know if I could handle dating someone who does drugs. Can anyone please tell me what to do? Or if marijuana is really such a bad thing? Help please.

Well think about it in the long run. Even if you can learn to live with it now will you be able to in the future? I mean sure 10 months is a long time, but years? And what happens when you have kids? Do you really want a stoner being an example of their father. Nothing against people who do use drugs but there is a reason drugs are illegal. They aren't good for you and you have no control whilst using them. If you really can't get past this and it's hurting you maybe its time to find someone who you can really share passion with in your differences. Not just learn to live with them. For example I when my boyfriend drinks and doesn't come home early to be with me. He hates fighting about me always giving him shit for hanging out with his buddies. Now he haves guys night at our house and I can come alone if I want to but I just like knowing he's in the house so I leave him alone? Do you see what I mean? there really is only a hot or cold with drugs though so maybe you should think if all this hurting and worrying is worth your boyfriend and you should think about where your relationship is going if anywhere? Hope I helped! :/ xxx

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(Rating: 5) Thank you, all of this really helped. I'll have to start thinking about this stuff
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