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Q: Last night I came downstairs really late and saw my dad on the computer. I was walking through the house to go to the kitchen for a drink and saw that he was on some sort of video-chat with another woman. She had her top off though and my dad was typing to her.

Today I sort-of tried to see if my dad would tell me anything about what was going on last night. I said to him, "You were up pretty late last night. Was everything OK?" He said he was up getting some paperwork done for work. I couldn't really do any more confrontation about it but he didn't seem nervous at all.

Over the past month I've noticed my dad coming home late from work and taking private calls in my parents' bedroom sometimes. My mom doesn't seem to think anything is strange but I'm wondering if he is cheating on my mom.

Should I talk to my dad about this and tell him I saw him chatting with a half-naked woman? Should I tell my mom about what I saw? Should I stay out of it completely? I don't want my parents to break up or get a divorce so I want this to be handled properly but I don't know if I should bring it out in the open first. Advice?
I agree with mangy_momma, it is your father's place to tell her.

I think you should confront your father about it. He better have a damn good explanation for what he was doing (half naked women are not paperwork >_> ). If he won't tell you abotu it himself, just tell him what you saw on the computer screen. Get the facts. And if your assumption is true, inform him that your mother has a right to know.

I'm not really OK with this advice and I don't really think it was thought out very much. If I confront my father with what I saw he may deny it or lie and say it will not happen again. Since I'm not an adult I don't really have any authority with him so what is going to change with the situation? He'll make a point to hide it VERY much since I have threatend to tell Mom about it then and that isn't any good...just creates more lies. If my parents are having problems that I can help be solved by say, "I have this information for you two to get started healing..." then why shouldn't I? My mother needs to know so that they can work through this and not wind up in a nasty situation.

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