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I'm Christina 25 years old I give very good advice when it becomes to being questions about being married,babys,pregnancy,abuse,career,adhd,depression,life,ect

Ive been through a lot in my life 14 years of counseling and sex therapy my life wasn't always perfect i was adopted by my grandmother as a child didn't find out til i was older my mother was living with us and she got away with things when i had my daughter at 20 I had no choice but give her to a family my mother was abusive to me yelling at me i was taking care of my grandmother but i was living at home i was engaged to be married but every thing didn't turn out right the man i loved lied to me so I had to change and not be life my family be mature move on and get away some family can be controlling that it can ruin your life that the best thing you can do get out get counseling I I graduated high school in 2003 and then i went to art school at art instruction school and dress making design i became a plus size model help from a friend I might have not had help in some ways of life but friends were the best in my life i looked at their life and that what i wanted my grandmother was just getting old when i reach a certain age my mother did drugs that one resin I left my sister were the same I wanted to to be their they wanted me to be like them well i did not want to be white trash so i toke some lady classes to be classy,graceful,independent this made me more of a women of my image and people like you when you have good manners good taste and can carry a conversation and can get along if you want to change you can god is one of the people that help me through every thing I might have had to give up on things but some times you have to make them better you might end up with nothing but along the way you get the things you need but things do not come free in life and you just cant sit their let in come to you. you have to get out and do it your self or you will not live the dream. god gave us all a talent live it do it become it never give up . my mother killed her self and overdosed on pill i was their and my grandmothers deathbed at least I seen her before it was time for her to go she was a good women she gave me good advice she and her husband owned a bar my grandmother was married twice but her first husband died then she was widowed and was poor then a man came in her life she lost her son at his age 13 my grandfather past away also but my grandmother was hard working women she would get work done if you didn't she could do any thing Im like her she didn't go to art school her dad wanted her to. but she got married instead well i did the art thing for her i got it from her her teaching me and showing me as a child as i will always love her never give up the people that showed you life and love its the main key to life I grew up having adhd still l have it to this day dosn't mean your dume it mean you got talent and you always have ideas running throw your head walt disney,the guy who mad charlie brown all had adhd woppie goldberg,mary kate and ashley,ect no ones is alone in some we we are the same but we all different image is nothing never compare you self to ant one be your self be healthy exercise eat healthy and you'll be happy thank you for reading this have a good day. my webpages myspace/ANNAIKA my email chrissibug@yahool.com

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A year ago I felt beautiful. It was the first time in my entire life that I actually felt beautiful. I had a boyfriend that thought I was the most beautiful girl in the universe. Since we've broken up, things have changed.

About a month ago I looked at my legs, a part of me which I had grown to adore, and saw these hideous limbs staring back at me. It was like overnight they had become fat and ghastly.

That's not even the worst part though.

Two weeks ago I swore I had started to lose weight. I knew I had been eating like half of what I would normally eat a day (I've just finished school and work starts later in the evening so I don't feel hungry till later and sometimes I'll only end up eating like two meals). I put on a skirt I had bought earlier in the month and it was a bit looser around me.

Anyway, over the weekend I went to a bar/club for the first time since I had just turned 18. I went with two girlfriends of mine. When I walked in my hair had been trashed by the rain but I still felt confident and happy. About two hours into the night after my friends had been picked up a few times and I hadn't even been looked at by a guy I still felt good because they were having a good time and I still love my ex boyfriend so I'm not looking for another guy at the moment.

Anyway, this guy who was sort of DJing came over to us and started having a conversation with my two friends. He didn't even look up at me, not even to just be polite. He completely avoided me at all costs. I just stood there awkwardly for like 15 minutes sipping my drink while he chatted them up. It really crushed me. When I go out I don't expect guys to look at me or pick me up, but I have never felt so insulted by someone before. It was like he gave one look at me and because I'm not attractive he just couldn't bare to look at me again. I'm not even overreacting, he didn't even bother to ask my name or greet me in any way, he knew I was with them since he had been watching us talk all night and because I was standing right next to them.

It wasn't that he was picking them up and not me, it was that he found me so disgusting he wouldn't even acknowledge me. I haven't been in a great place since me and my boyfriend have broken up, I just feel ugly and unwanted all the time, and that was just the final blow that has broken me a part.

It sounds so petty and ridiculous but it was just so humiliating and awful. He gave me this look when he first came over and I smiled at him, it was just this "why are you even looking at me" glare before he quickly avoided my eye contact and refused to look at me again. He even followed my friends downstairs when we had found a seat and kept going with their conversation without acknowledging me. I've never met someone who has been so horrible like that, other guys that knew a few friends of mine were there and they were polite enough to even just smile and wave or say hello when they were interested in my friends just out of common courtesy.

Since that night, I can't find anything pretty let alone beautiful about me. I can't imagine anyone ever thinking I'm beautiful again, and it hurts to know that. I feel like in a few short days I've gained all that weight back even though I haven't been eating more, my skirt is even tighter than it was now. Could the change in the way I see myself have changed my physical appearance?

I'm not really sure what I'm asking for with advice, I want to know how my body could have changed so much but then I want to know how guys can be so horribly cruel to women who aren't pretty? I want to know why guys have to be so repelled by me when I'm nothing but nice to them and a happy person. This was mostly because I feel so terribly upset right now and wish I could talk to someone about it.

Thank you to anyone who listened.

you pretty no matter what justgo to the gym you need to be cofedent in your self stop looking at the bad things do somthing for your self get your nails done join a club go to church do somthing.

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(Rating: 3) I appreciate your advice and for reading my question, but saying "your pretty no matter what" then following by saying "just go to the gym" kind of contradicts what you just said.
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