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So I’ll admit- I’m straight edge
Never tried alcohol cause I’m under 21.
Never tried pot
Never experimented.
And neither had my best friend, but recently she’s been hanging around this girl who is her “New school best friend” cause we go to different schools. But I’ve always been her regular best friend. This girl she’s hanging out with wants her to smoke pot with her next weekend, and my friend is trying to play it cool like she doesn’t care. But I know she does. I told her she shouldn’t do it and she was like “it’s only one time, and plus it’s already been decided.”
That’s what everyone who does pot says, that they’re only going to do it one time. But before she knows it she’s gonna get more comfortable with doing it and such… and I don’t know. I know I can’t change her mind for her. But is there any way I could talk her out of it or something? Cuz pot sort of ruined my life, even though I’ve never done it. I had a bad experience with a boyfriend who dumped me because I wouldn’t smoke pot with him and stuff. It just… pisses me off I guess that she would do something like that and not even talk to me about it.
"it's already been decided."
I don’t know.
Does anyone get it? I feel like an ass, but I’m really concerned.
What do I do?

I've been in similar situations. There's no real good way to talk someone out of it- they've made a decision and need to think for themselves regardless of how smart that decision is. You don't want to bombard them with anti-pot facts or anything, that will just push them away. I'd say just tell them that you hope they don't do anything stupid [driving, things they normally wouldn't do when sober], and say you're still there for them.
Plenty of people smoke pot, not saying it's right or wrong, but it happens. You have your stance on drugs, it is a personal decision. It's hard to see your best friend change like that but it's really not something you can prevent. Just hope that it doesn't change her drastically.

Nothing wrong with being straightedge by the way. I'm 21 and have been it all my life, never touched alcohol or drugs or cigs or any of that, and most of my friends are drinkers, smokers, etc. But it's all about mutual respect, they respect me, I respect them [although I do worry about them sometimes]. Hopefully your friend can continue to respect your distance from substances, even if she experiments with them.

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