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my dad and mom have been together as long as ive been alive. two years ago i caught him in chat rooms, n video sessions with other women. i had a suspicion of him cheating, and walked down on him doing a session with another women. we lost our relaitonshp. its ok now. but im finding more stuff. ive found enough stuff now to make the prediction that he is getting a hooker. like, if i had to guess, i would say 99%. My whole life, people have let me down. My best rfiend gave away his life when he knew i was the only one fighting for him, my first love cheated on me three times.. now my dad is doing this to me. and im the only one who knows. I know what telling my mom will do. My family will end. And im scared if i do nothing, guilt will catch up to him, cause he surely is such a good man. My mom works nights so shes never home to know... hes always out so late, and his job is perfect to find a way to cheat, because he works his own job with his own appointments all over. My heart is being severely torn. im so close to giving in, i just have no clue what i can do. Tell my mom, my dad will hate me, my family will end, and my life will never be the same. Not say anything, my dad will continue to hurt me so badon the inside, and if guilt catches up, he could end his life like two of my other friends fathers have done. This is weird to say, but i had a strong feeling my best friend would end his life... and ive always for years had that about my dad. I have anxiety attacks and severe depression. ive askedmy mom to go back to counseling, but she doesnt seem to trake it seroius and ive asked her three times she hasnt gotten right to it.
please, any advice. anyone thats been in this situation... i have no options left, and my mind is getting into a fix.. its gonna be forever stuck as resentful, hate, sad, pissed, and depressed. It already is, i hate my life. im 18, and i dont even feel like living anymore but i would never end my life.. please... someonee have something reasonable to tell me. (link)
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Righto..
First of all.. NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT! That's the most important thing to remember. Tell yourself everyday!
Second, I do not agree with cheating at all. Once a cheater always a cheater, however, trying to look at it at your dad's point of view, is your parents relationship happy?
Do they fight? Do they tell each other that they love one another? Do they go out together? Do they do the coupley things?
As sad as it sounds, they might just be two people who are living together at the moment. They might not be the couple they use to be a long time ago. Again, none if this is your fault.
Sometime people fall in and out of love. It's not something that can be forced or controlled.
On the other hand, if I am wrong then instead of telling your mum, set it up so she finds out what's going on with your dad.
Therefore, you didn't tell so you don't have the guilt trip of being the bubble burster. This might be your dad's way out without trying to hurt your mum in the meantime. Before you start any of this you need to be 100% sure that he is cheating. No stories worked up in your head, you need to have witnessed it for real. No point in telling your mum that he's looking at women on the internet, i'm sure most men do that.
If he is dating someone in real life then that's when you need to put your foot down. Again, none of this is your fault.
Sometimes parents splitting up is the best thing for a child. The parents have become free again.
I'm not saying that splitting up is what's going to happen but there is obviously a problem somewhere. If you are unhappy about the situation, communication is the key. Talk to your parents!!!
Good luck, hope I helped
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ive got pictures of him on escort sites (which are hookers) from his history on his computer. i also found a ton of craigslist.com if you know whatt that is, which i just found out is a place where you can sell yourself or buy someone else. I found like 7 of those same sites, looking in different locations. One night he said he was going out to dinner, at 6pm. got home at 1230, and i was severely sick with the flu. He said he was out to eat the whole time. I ve seen him communicating with another women like i saw her on his cimputer over a video chat session. Im pretty sure he is not seeing another women, but i feel like he is seeing a hooker. but they do always do stuff together, say i love you, just sometimes they hardly see each other bcause she works the night shift. thank you though i just dont know what to do
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