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Q: ok so i have a bf that im soo inlove with.weve made a plan for ourselves that we want to get married in 3 years once iv graduated and worked alittle etc.
2days ago i told my parents about my bf.at the time my parents were both good with everything and happy for me.my dad (bless him) even called my bf just to say hi and stuff.now everythings changing.my dad hasnt said much but my mother is driving my crazy!shes trying to talk me out of being with him because shes scared hes going to control me and shell never see me again after we get married etc.shes asking me all these questions about him and when i sy "i dont know"she makes it as if i dont know him well enough etc.i know i should just bring him home and introduce him properly but i cant with the wway my mother is reacting im scared my bf is going to get scared and leave.i dont know what to say to my mother.shes really pissing my off!my bf has anger issues and gets angry quickly.hes never been angry with me yet but she thinks hes going to get angry at me and hit me or soemthing.she thinks hes not going to be good to me.i dont know what to do or what to say because im angry at her for telling my brother about my bf when i told her not to tell anyone because i wnate dto tell him myself when i was ready now my brother is angry because i didnt tell him and kept it from him.

i dont know what to do or say..its driving me further and further away from my mother.sorry but right now i cant stand her.

i need major advice before i say soemthing ill regret!
thank youu

you need to sit both of your parents down and explain to them. You don't plan on getting married for at least 3 years at the earliest. That gives your plenty of time to get to know him and make sure he is the one for you. tell your mother that you love her very much and no one is going to make you stay away from her and if they were to try they obviously are not the one for you. inform her that you would like them to meet your boyfriend but not the way they are actting. if they have questions answer them calmly if you do not know the answer tell your mom hm that is something i havent asked him. inform her that you will ask and find out.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.