I'm an ordinary person who likes the following things: writing, helping people, movies, reading, jogging, animals and teaching.
I don't like: stress, confusion, people who do not drag their weight and laziness.
My good qualities (I think) are patience, open-mindedness and the ability to write and speak in public with ease.
My weaknesses (I'm always working on these!) are the tendency to take on too much, from time to time; the tendency to not get enough sleep and my eating habits could be a lot better than they are now.
I will try to answer questions in an honest, open way, involving what I think is common sense. If I don't think I can answer a question well, I will skip over it.
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I don't like how I feel sometimes about my ex. He's my best friend and I know that we are meant to be friends. I don't want to like him as more than that, but the feelings haven't gone away. He broke up with me about 2 months ago because he said that his feelings weren't there anymore.
I know that he isn't right for me. I've known it all along, but over the course of our time together I slowly had stronger feelings for him until I really did love him. But certain things about us together were never ideal. Basically, I loved him and imagined my life together with him, but there was always a small amount of doubt. All the same, it didn't make it any easier after the break up. I felt like I lost the love of my life. I became extremely depressed for a couple of weeks.
We stayed best friends immediately after the break up. It's worked out well for the both of us. It's like he said, we can love eachother without all the relationship stuff. So now, I give him advice about the girl he likes and he teases me about my crushes. But sometimes, the thought of him with that girl together, it turns my stomach :/. And I know I can't avoid this feeling, eventually if something does happen between them, it could only get worse.
So does anyone know a way that I could deal with this? Anything would help. Thanks (link)
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Honestly, I think it is difficult sometimes to be friends with someone you love so much. Just because he stopped having feelings for you, that doesn't mean that your feelings just stopped when you broke up. I think that is why more people who break up just break clean. That means by just not being around him so much....not trying to be friends. Sure, it is nice to still have him to talk to, but it hurts you when he is talking about other girls. Honestly, I think you should break free of him. You don't have to do it formally, just gradually try to not see him as much. Try to not talk as much. It is my personal feeling that you need to do this to be able to move on. If you keep on trying to be friends, it will be good for him, but not necessarily for you. It kind of is not fair to you, I think. So my advice would be to gradually stop being so close to him as a friend and move on. If you do that....your feelings for him will have time to heal and you will be able to get on with your life. Good luck.
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Well, maybe that would work. But I can't throw people away like that, especially people who mean a lot to me. This person is my best friend.
But thank you, I appreciate the advice.
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