I'm an ordinary person who likes the following things: writing, helping people, movies, reading, jogging, animals and teaching.
I don't like: stress, confusion, people who do not drag their weight and laziness.
My good qualities (I think) are patience, open-mindedness and the ability to write and speak in public with ease.
My weaknesses (I'm always working on these!) are the tendency to take on too much, from time to time; the tendency to not get enough sleep and my eating habits could be a lot better than they are now.
I will try to answer questions in an honest, open way, involving what I think is common sense. If I don't think I can answer a question well, I will skip over it.
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My boyfriend of 14 mths told me recently he joined the Air force. However he told me after everyone else new and over two weeks after he told everyone else. His friends, the lady who cuts his hair, even my neighbor knew before I did. I feel very hurt not just in the fact he kept something from me like that, but the fact he lied to me. He lied to me by saying that he was hanging out with his friends when actually he was joining the air force. I guess I just figure with as long as we dated he could at least be honest with him. I've been completely 100% honest with him from the beginning. I'm am extremely hurt as of right now and been thinking about ending it for the past week and a half. Besides he could be gone for a yr to two at a time. I just don't see it working out. Am I a horrible person if it does end? And also do you think he was just trying to protect me by not telling me till almost 2 wks after he joined? When he told me it was in the middle of a fight we were having and he said that was a good time to tell me then any other. How is that? I asked a few of my friends and they said he was just trying to protect me. None of them really want to get that involved because they said it's a very touchy subject. ERR! I just dunno. Please help me! (link)
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My gut feeling is that's not a good sign that he would keep something like that from you. Didn't he think that you would hear about it from everyone he told? It would be guessing why he did it. I don't think that's the important part. I think that you have to have a heart-to-heart talk with him and start communicating on a real level. You mentioned that you and he were "in the middle of a fight" ...so, I take it your relationship is a rocky one. I would say that to be able to withstand long distances between you two over two years, your relationship has to be very, very strong. Unless you can make some big changes before he leaves, I would agree with you that prospects for success with a long distance relationship are slim.
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I appreciate the advice but no, we don't fight that much.
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