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This may get very confusing. Names have been changed...
I used to hang out with a guy named Donald, Donald and I hung out a LOT, and did everything together, including sexual stuff. Well I wanted a relationship and Donald didn't, so we stayed as friends with benefits. (Donald had girlfriends the whole time I was talking to him, very bad idea, but I was definitely falling for him and he knew it...)
One day Donald picks me up and he had brought his friend Brandon with him. I was always hanging out with Donald and his friends. They all knew me, and they all liked me. (They're my second family now.)
Well when I met Donalds friend, Brandon I immediatley thought he was good looking! And there was just something about him that I could tell I liked him right away. Well since I had feelings for Donald I continued to mess with Donald, and me and Brandon became good friends.
Recently, Brandon invited me to come hang out with him, and stay the night so we could drink and hang out. Well, at the time I didn't really think I liked Brandon that way..Well come to find out I definately like him a whole LOT.
Brandon kissed me, I kissed back. He asked me out, I said yes. Brandon told Donald. Donald was okay with it, but told Brandon I would most likely cheat on him, which I definately won't.
But anyways I have a feeling Donald might call me up one night, and ask me to hang out with him which will lead to sexual stuff, and I don't want to cheat on Brandon. If Donald calls what should I tell him? Because I don't want him mad at me, I still love him, just not in love with him.
I love all of them, and I don't want anybody to get hurt, what should I do?
First of all, you need to put the brakes on. You do not want to be the center of "locker room " talk. Sleeping with two guys that hang out together is so not cool. If you havn't slept with Brandon yet, be sure he is someone you love before you decide to. If you don't and things don't work out, you'll be looked at as a whore. Think long and hard about if you want to go there. On the other hand, you definately need to cut things off with Donald. Sex should be between two people with love, and a deep connection with one another, not just because it's convient.
(Rating: 4) Brandon had known I was sleeping with Donald, and I wasnt just sleeping with Donald just to do it, I did it because I thought I loved him. Just so ya don't think I'm a whore.lol. Thanks for the advice =]